Ralph Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 I am a girl, not a guy, despite the name and my complication is as follows: There is a guy at school I have been out with before, and he can be really sweet when he wants to, but can also be very annoying aswell! And he hardly ever spent time with me, he was always with his friends. He is considered a loser by everyone at school and he is not very good looking either. But the trouble is, he still likes me and just the other day reminded me of how sweet he really is. Someone asked him if he would go out with me again and he said yes. I think maybe I like him a bit, even if it's only a tiny bit!!! We have heaps in common except when I went out with him before, people gave me such a hard time about going out with "a loser like him!" What should I do? Should I ingore what people think and go out with him again, or just stay friends!?:o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 Well a) looks shouldn't matter, so as far as I'm concerned thats out of the question... b) It's all up to you and what you like in a guys personality. Even the meanest jerk can be sweet on occation, doesn't mean he's a good guy.... As long as he fulfills what you expect and doesn't hurt you in any way I think you'll be fine. On a side note: perhaps he never spent time with you in the first place cause he doesn't know how to come forward in a relationship. Ive seen this happen and have done it personally... when guys or girls don't know how to handle a relationship they simply don't. They do what they've been doing, and in his case, hanging out with friends... What i would do was to teach him what it means to be in a relationship with you or any girl. If he can't respect that maybe you need him once in a while, he's not the one for you.... move on. There's plenty of other people out there for you, people who will treat you in the way you deserve to bve treated, not pushed aside. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kittie Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 i went through that before... i was with this guy and everybody was like, "why are you with him?!" and "you can do better!"... i just ignored them and we had a good relationship...then when we got to high school a lot of those same people wanted to go with him... just ignore what they say...because you're going with him...not them! just listen to yourself and what you want...no one else! ^-^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 i broke up with my girlfriend few weeks ago. i blamed people for letting me think i could do better. but i realized later that i didn't love her. yeah..so just ignore what other say and do what you are comfortable to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysticBabe Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 search in side your self and find out how you like him, not how others like him. if you think he's good for you, then he is. you need to decide, not your friends. my friends have totally different opinions about the guys i like, but thats them, not me. if you want to go out with, then you should. if you don't want to go out with him, then don't. its totally up to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysticGohan Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 Transtic,you must be insane!!! Looks do matter! Ralph, everytime you look at your "FUTURE" bf... what do you see? Well, for ME atleast, looks do matter!! And so does the persons personalitly... well, whatever dude!!! rock on! Your poop stinks!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 Transtic might be insane, but that's not necessarily a bad thing... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by MysticGohan [/i] [B]Transtic,you must be insane!!! Looks do matter! Ralph, everytime you look at your "FUTURE" bf... what do you see? Well, for ME atleast, looks do matter!! And so does the persons personalitly... well, whatever dude!!! rock on! Your poop stinks!! [/B][/QUOTE] I'm not insane... well wait... yes I am..... but thats besides the point.... When I look at a guy or girl i don't look to looks first... i look at smarts. It's what I find attractive. If you don't have the common sense of a 11 year old I don't want to be anywhere near you. It's just a complete turn off to me for guys and girls.... In the end looks do matter to an extent.... I mean, it's culture anywhere pretty much that it's better to have a good looking boyfriend/girlfriend. Sure it's just an addition, but it's not first on my list of things that attract me.... whether it be in guys or girls... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Transtic Nerve [/i] [B] I'm not insane... well wait... yes I am..... but thats besides the point.... When I look at a guy or girl i don't look to looks first... i look at smarts. It's what I find attractive. If you don't have the common sense of a 11 year old I don't want to be anywhere near you. It's just a complete turn off to me for guys and girls.... In the end looks do matter to an extent.... I mean, it's culture anywhere pretty much that it's better to have a good looking boyfriend/girlfriend. Sure it's just an addition, but it's not first on my list of things that attract me.... whether it be in guys or girls... [/B][/QUOTE] Common sense, isn't. ;) But I agree with Transtic on this one. While looks are going to end up being a factor at some point, they aren't what attracts me to some one. I've known gorgeous idiots and not-so-gorgeous smart people, and believe me, I enjoy myself a lot more with the people I can hold an intelligent conversation with.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Saiya-jin Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 I will tell you right now that a lot of the times the one you let get away is the one that can give you the world...and if your lame like that (don't get upset..k) you miss your own chance for a good deal..me personally I never gave a F@#$ about what anyone said, and I came out good...You do you girl and don't worry what anyone else says, they are not you..only you know your own happiness Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baby Kiwi Posted August 21, 2001 Share Posted August 21, 2001 [COLOR=crimson]If you like him, even just a little bit, looks shouldn't matter. And if people are telling you that he's not the best choice, then screw them! In the real world it doesnt matter who you date, because no one cares, unless the boys treat you badly. Anyway, if you are attracted to his personality, that should shine past his looks, and you can like him for that[/COLOR] :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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