Friends and Sisters

[Guest Matt]

[color=red][b]Ok, I got a real problem here. One of my really good friends(who's 17) just asked out my 14 year old sister. Now I'm really pissed at him. I invited him over to hang out. Then when it was time for him to leave, he wouldn't. He made my sister say he could stay. That got me mad enough. Then he went and asked her out. I am really p¡ssed off at the moment. I think he is a real as$hole. Is there anyone out there that has been in the same situation? Can anyone help my try and finf out what to do?[/b][/color]

[Queen Asuka]

[color=crimson][size=1]Well, hold ON for a second...I think I'm seeing this from the sister's/friend's point of view. About two years ago or so, I started liking my best friend's brother. The three of us grew up together, so it was almost natural that me and this guy started going out. Well my best friend HATED that...she would invite me over, but then she would totally NOT talk to me, and she would leave me all by myself unless me and this guy broke up. She was my best friend, and she wasn't supporting that relationship, and I was really hurt.

So, I think you should let your friend and your sister have a chance. If things aren't meant to be, they'll eventually break it off, and if he tries to do anything to her, you can kick his *****. Yeah, he might be a few years older than her, but if he really WANTS a relationship and just doesn't want to get laid, then I think you should give them a chance. He's your friend...[/color][/size]

[Guest Matt]

[color=red][b]Well, he is a very sexually oriented person. he owns porn and frequently downloads it. He always says that he is waiting for a chance to get laid. I don't care if he does it, as long as it isn't with my little sister. She is too young to understand what people like him might do. If he so much as kisses her, I'll give him such a f**king beatdown.......god. I'm still p*ssed. I wouldn't mind if he was a nice guy. But it seems to me that he just wants to get in her pants. And there is no way in hell he is going anywhere near her pants. he can just get his rocks off to his porno if he wants. be i swear if he gets anywhere near my sis.....[/b][/color]

[Mike]

I would stick his head up his *****. sounds to me that's where it belongs. I'm 14 and I myself couldn't do it, but I'm sure you can. I know if I had a little sis I would check out all her b/f to make sure they were ok, if not I'd get my dad's riffle, when he came over one time I would get it out, shine it up and ask, "Are you good at running? Her last boyfriend wasn't." hehe, but I'm somehwhat evil.

[Delian]

Well I think this guy won't try anything funny with your sister, considering you've made it clear that you're pissed off with what he's doing and that you've warned him if he tries anything funny. Otherwise you could just go tell your parents what kind of guy he is and maybe they will forbid your sister to go out with him.... Has your sister agreed to go out with him? You never said. Maybe you should talk to her, let her know what kind of guy he is. If you do it nicely, she might realize that you are looking out for her and she will stay away from him.

[Deedlit]

I would make sure I'm stronger than him first. (That way you don't end up like this: :blackeye: :drunk: )Then if he pulls the moves on your sister, it's a WWF Smackdown in the house. :flaming:

[Charles]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Delian [/i]
[B]Otherwise you could just go tell your parents what kind of guy he is and maybe they will forbid your sister to go out with him.... [/B][/QUOTE]

I agree with Delian on this one. Rather than trying to beat the guy up, which won't solve [I]anything[/I], you should just tell your parents about the situation. If you parents really don't like the guy, they'll probably sit her down and have a talk with her. Remember, if something is out of your hands, it's always better to go to a parent then to pull something lame, like attacking someone. In the end, your sister is your parents' responsibility and she's more likely to respect what they say than she would a sibling.

[Guest Matt]

[color=red][b]Well, my sis wants to go out with him. i already told my parents, but they think he is a nice kid. i will try again, but if he touches her....[/b][/color]

[phoenixflames]

She's only 14, he's 17, talks about how much he wants to get laid and frequently downloads porn. Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh........... Break out daddy's shotgun, it's huntin time.

[BabyGirl]

[color=deeppink]14....17....:butthead:

God what is this world about -__-

I know a 14 year old freshman girl who had sex with her 18 year old senior boyfriend. I just think it's so horribly wrong...-__-

First of all, I would be pissed too, Son Goten. I think you have every right to be upset. Not only is she your sister, but she's your [i]14 year old[/i] sister, and he is a [i]17 year old[/i] horny male.

Beh.[/color]

[Guest Hikaru Ichijyo]

I've never been in a situation like this before my sis is 26, so I don't really have to worry about my friends trying to come on to her. As for your friend I think that is rather pathetic for someone at the age of 17 to try and take advantage of a girl that is 14 years old, there is a significant age difference there and I really don't see how a freshmen can relate to a senior, the two age groups are usually thinking different things!:(

I had a friend who dated a girl that was 15 while he was 18 and thats just as bad, however I can safely say the relationship eventually came to an end when my friend realized she was too imature for him. Maybe your friend will realize that, but if he gets out of hand you have every right to kick his :butthead:!

[Undying Angel]

I kind of have the same situation going on right now... 'Cept my bro may be younger and this girl's online... She really irks me, but...

I know how you feel. If you have to dearly protect your 14 year old sister from a 17 year old friend, I'd say you should do it... Just don't let it get to your head.

I also do agree with Queen Asuka here, but what you do is your decision.

[Delian]

Can't you try threatening him with the fact that, if he sleeps with her, or tries to, then you could put him up for statutory(sp?) rape.
She is, after all underage.

Try telling your sister that the only reason he's making moves on her is because all girls his age are old and smart enough to know what kind of sleeze bag he is. If she still insists that she wants to go out with him, then let her, but keep a close eye on her. It's not like you can lock her up in her room. Maybe she'll see the kind of guy he is and dump him on her own.

[Transtic Nerve]

No offense, but your sister is 14... what were you doing when you were 14? And did you know better? Granted 14 is a little young, but my best friend was 17 and going out with his girlfriend who was 14.... they've been together almost 3 years now... You aren't being a good brother and your not not being a good friend. Plus, it's her life... no where on her life does it say you must control it. No one looked out for me... and I'm fine. I learned anything I had to. I tried "looking out" for my brother... that didn't help sh*t... he has a kid and is only 17.

Lets put it this way, if your sister really likes him... and he really likes her, they aren't gonna give one rats bottom what you think. They are young, naive, and they'll make their own decissions to benefit themselves.

Also, look at your situation... you have:

a) A friend and a sister who don't hate you

The likely situation if you get involved (physically or any other way):

a) Your former friend and sister hate you.

I think there's only one option for any rational person.

[Pressure]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Transtic Nerve [/i]
[B]they aren't gonna give one rats bottom what you think. [/B][/QUOTE]

[COLOR=purple]I'll hopefully stop laughing sometime before 2003..

hmm pornofied is he?

*points*

so is Krillen..

and it's not like your sister is going to just throw her life away, spread her legs and be like, "Oh okay, sure, gee I hope my brother doesn't walk in."

if she's made it this far in life, your sister isn't, well hopefully isnt, just gonna uncross her heels and strip for him, even if he is a porofied freak, most 17 year olds are..

relax..

she can take care of herself..

however.. if he tries to rape her.. dag.. I don't even want to begin on all the things you could do to him.. god my butt would be up there kicking his -beep-[/COLOR]

[velvet paws]

Well I'm going to agree that if it's likely he's gona try and put the moves on your sis cause he's only desperate to get laid...then you want to interveen. Tey telling your parents again what he's like but if they ignore you just talk to your sister. Don't be harsh or forceful, just say something like
"I know you're old enough to think for yourself and all that, but you're still my sis (don't say little! bad bad move!), I'm always gona look out for you and right now I'm worried for you. I've known this guy alot longer, and I know he might actually like you for who you are..infact I sincerly hope he does..but he's also really into doing stuff like having sex and I just want you to take care of yourself and if he tries anything tell me cause I'll beat the cr*p outa him!"

On the other hand all I have to say is my bf's 2 years older than me..infact he only misses 3 years older than me by 1 1/2 months...so although this may seem a huge gap because she's your little sis...it's not really. I may be 2 years older than her but as long as this guy DOESN'T try anything they may be okay..and as someone said before..it's likely that they will break it off after a few weeks...maybe a few months most.

[EDIT] I just wanted to put this...I lost it at 14..okay the guy was only 6 months older than me...but we managed to stay together for 17months solid and we're still good friends now....I know this ain't exactly helpful..but I just wanted it said. [/EDIT]