sexyjessie4 Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 Okay, I know there have been alot of topics on here before about this sort of thing, and this one will probably be closed soon. But I really need a place to vent and share and y'all are always good at giving advice to other people. So, here's the deal...I went to dinner with my ex-boyfriend 2nite (his idea..."we needed to talk about us") and the whole night he tells me it was a mistake he ever broke up w/ me and that I was honestly the perfect girlfriend and blah blah blah about how he still likes me...and if you can't tell I like him still A LOT!! So, we both think we should get back together...but the problem is he has a girlfriend!! And they've been together for awhile and he is sick of her but she is so obsessed w/ him that he feels like he can't break up w/ her again (he's tried multiple times before). So I just feel like I'm nothing ya know....I mean, I guess I just don't understand what his point of view could be so if someone could help me with this I'd appreciate it. And I'd also love to hear other people's broken heart stories. Thanks for letting me vent... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddess21 Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 [color=crimson]Sexy, you are definitely better than his girlfriend.... she kinda seems like a hoe! He should just break up with her and get with you!!!!!:D [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 Ah damn.... I thought you were gonna talk about the movie... which is like one of the coolest movies I've seen :) But anyway... It's hard to break up or disappoint someone who is overly obssessed with you. You get this guilt thingy that will just tear people up, nto to mention it'll be 10 times as bad for the person who you broke up with, and some people just don't wanna deal with that sort of thing because it becomes uncomfortable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest pokemoncasey Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 Well you could make him get back together with him you casue ya love him right? "I am the ultimate leader of the Magi Squadron!:flaming: "you want a peice of me bannana head:flaming: :demon: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sephiroth Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 you should never go out with someone who is already going out with someone, it will only cause heartache, tell him that until he breaks up with his current girlfriend then you won't go out with him.... and him breaking up with her does not necessarily mean a bad thing, tell him to bring her down gently, tell her that they can still be friends and that he has feelings for someone else, namely you, all can be sorted out if people just talk instead.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyGirl Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Sephiroth [/i] [B]and him breaking up with her does not necessarily mean a bad thing, tell him to bring her down gently, tell her that they can still be friends and that he has feelings for someone else, namely you, all can be sorted out if people just talk instead.... [/B][/QUOTE] [color=deeppink]I believe they tried that like three times already...? Those two are a weird couple...she grosses me out. He needs to be with you, Sexy! Good luck with that boy![/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sephiroth Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by BabyGirl [/i] [B] [color=deeppink]I believe they tried that like three times already...? Those two are a weird couple...she grosses me out. He needs to be with you, Sexy! Good luck with that boy![/color] [/B][/QUOTE] with me?! well...umm, heh :blush: heh heh, just kidding, but yeah, I know they tried it a few times already, but I don't think he tried hard enough, if you can say it right, then any girl will understand, except some of the psycho girls here in the uk, of couse, lol.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexyjessie4 Posted April 12, 2002 Author Share Posted April 12, 2002 Yeah, I know it was wrong to go out on a date w/ him when he is still w/ his girlfriend, but we really were just talking about us and stuff. And I guess I do understand that he doesn't wanna hurt her and all that, but I still think he should break up with her. But anyways, he called me last night after I wrote that post and he said he was breaking up with her for good this time because being with me made him realize how much he still liked me. And as much as I hate his girlfriend, I do feel bad for her.....but I think that things are going to work out!!:love: *Thanks for letting me vent!* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 [color=indigo] Well I am not sure what kind of personality the guy has, it must be a good one if you want to go back out with him. But you should take into consideration that he went on a date with you why he was going out with a girl...what is to say that he won't do it again? Just make sure that you trust him before you take him back, and make sure that his girlfriend is long gone.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexyjessie4 Posted April 12, 2002 Author Share Posted April 12, 2002 That is a good point...I do trust him though and I honestly think it will be okay...I hope so at least!! *crosses fingers* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by sexyjessie4 [/i] [B]That is a good point...I do trust him though and I honestly think it will be okay...I hope so at least!! *crosses fingers* [/B][/QUOTE] [color=indigo] Well, if it feels right then you should dive in head first:D [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Single H Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 I don't get It.... This guy who dumps you, and gets another girlfriend. Now he's want you back by dumping the other gall because he's sick of her. Tell me, why did he dump you in the first place? Because he was sick of you? What makes you think he won't dump you again for the same reason? He's quite a dumping guy...... and always sick..... better take him to the hospital. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stitch Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 yeah i think u should get that other girl outta the picture hunnie cause befor ya know it he won't be sick anymore!! ~GG~ 100TH POST YIPPIE!!:wigout: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Macaiodh Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 this seems like a lame excuse to me. all he has to do is be like, "look, i don't want to go out w/ you. i'm not your boyfriend anymore." & then just never talk to her again. he's allowing her to manipulate him & that's just lame. i understand she's a stalker & all, but jeeze. if he really wanted to dump her, he'd have done it by now. you can only spare someone's feelings so much in this situation. she's going to get hurt either way, inevitably. the longer he says w/ her, the harder it will be to break it off & the less likely he'll be to do it. i'd forget about him. i don't know the situation, but from what you said, it sounds like he has no spine. you deserve a real man, jessie! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest BulmaVegeta1 Posted April 12, 2002 Share Posted April 12, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Lady Macaiodh [/i] [B]this seems like a lame excuse to me. all he has to do is be like, "look, i don't want to go out w/ you. i'm not your boyfriend anymore." & then just never talk to her again. he's allowing her to manipulate him & that's just lame. i understand she's a stalker & all, but jeeze. if he really wanted to dump her, he'd have done it by now. you can only spare someone's feelings so much in this situation. she's going to get hurt either way, inevitably. the longer he says w/ her, the harder it will be to break it off & the less likely he'll be to do it. i'd forget about him. i don't know the situation, but from what you said, it sounds like he has no spine. you deserve a real man, jessie! [/B][/QUOTE] I agree with you, LM. I mean, if he broke up with her in the first place and started going out with this other girl and wants Jessie back, he's proably making up excuses to dump the other girl. He might just be using you, Jessie, to get away from that other girl. He might be looking for someone else. I've dealt with these kind of situations for my friends. Just forget him. If he really likes you, then why'd he break up with you in the first place? He'll proably get "tired" of you again or whatever and proably dump you again. I'd just forget him. Like they say, there's always better fish in the sea, or however it goes! Someone better will come up and he'll regret breaking up with you in the first place!! That'll show him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexyjessie4 Posted April 12, 2002 Author Share Posted April 12, 2002 I definitely understand what y'all are saying, and I guess you're right...but...I can't explain it, but I just can't leave the boy. Yeah, he hurt me before, but it would hurt so much if I couldn't be with him....And, the reason he dumped me, well there was a lot of things and I think one of the main things was that we just rushed into it and we weren't completely comfortable with each other then...but that was a long time ago and now we can tlak about anything, which is good for a relationship. I don't know..I really do see your points of view, and I don't know if anyone understands what I mean when I say that I'll like him no matter what and that I think this will work out....but I hope so. (or I just sound plain crazy to y'all!!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted April 13, 2002 Share Posted April 13, 2002 [color=indigo] Forget all of our advice and just go back out with the guy. I thought about it and realized that us guys are pretty ill-equiped at handling relationships right the first time. Give the guy another chance, maybe it will turn out to be the love of a lifetime or maybe not, c'est la vie...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Posted April 13, 2002 Share Posted April 13, 2002 I agree with HC. I think that you should give the guy a second chance and go out with him. Guys hardly ever hit the mark on the first shot. Present company included. -Justin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vegitto4 Posted April 13, 2002 Share Posted April 13, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by sexyjessie4 [/i] [B]Okay, I know there have been alot of topics on here before about this sort of thing, and this one will probably be closed soon. But I really need a place to vent and share and y'all are always good at giving advice to other people. So, here's the deal...I went to dinner with my ex-boyfriend 2nite (his idea..."we needed to talk about us") and the whole night he tells me it was a mistake he ever broke up w/ me and that I was honestly the perfect girlfriend and blah blah blah about how he still likes me...and if you can't tell I like him still A LOT!! So, we both think we should get back together...but the problem is he has a girlfriend!! And they've been together for awhile and he is sick of her but she is so obsessed w/ him that he feels like he can't break up w/ her again (he's tried multiple times before). So I just feel like I'm nothing ya know....I mean, I guess I just don't understand what his point of view could be so if someone could help me with this I'd appreciate it. And I'd also love to hear other people's broken heart stories. Thanks for letting me vent... [/B][/QUOTE] If he is onyl dating the other girl because she is obsessed with him, and she might do something drastic, thats emotional blackmail. She needs to realize that somebody better for him has come along, again. I just whent through this with my last ex Girlfriend.I know how you feel. But in a different way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexyjessie4 Posted April 16, 2002 Author Share Posted April 16, 2002 Let the "I told ya so's" start rolling in........I don't know how one person can hurt me so much.....if anyone has a cure for tears and a broken heart.....tell me.....:bawl: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinetic Posted April 16, 2002 Share Posted April 16, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by sexyjessie4 [/i] [B]Let the "I told ya so's" start rolling in........I don't know how one person can hurt me so much.....if anyone has a cure for tears and a broken heart.....tell me.....:bawl: [/B][/QUOTE] Sugar, lots and lots of suger :laugh: But seriously, I think the best cure would be to be with friends, have a slumber party or something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vegitto4 Posted April 16, 2002 Share Posted April 16, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by sexyjessie4 [/i] [B]Let the "I told ya so's" start rolling in........I don't know how one person can hurt me so much.....if anyone has a cure for tears and a broken heart.....tell me.....:bawl: [/B][/QUOTE] This is an hones to God cure. At least it worked for me. Keep in mind, the pain will never fully go away, but this helps. Go,. talk to some friends, and smoke about 2 bowls of MJ, and you will be all set. No Lie, It worked for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted April 16, 2002 Share Posted April 16, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by sexyjessie4 [/i] [B]Let the "I told ya so's" start rolling in........I don't know how one person can hurt me so much.....if anyone has a cure for tears and a broken heart.....tell me.....:bawl: [/B][/QUOTE] [color=indigo] Well you are a Dewitt High School Girl, aren't you?? Go out and party with BG this weekend, hang out, get drunk, find a man, go dancing, do something...I guarentee there are probably a dozen guys who desperatly want to go out with you, pick one and have a good time[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexyjessie4 Posted April 16, 2002 Author Share Posted April 16, 2002 Well I'm going to New York City this weekend with Baby Girl, BabyKiwi and Goddess21 so I should have a great time!! I'm looking forward to it and I'll let y'all know about how the situation turned out when I get home...thanks for everything! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddess21 Posted April 16, 2002 Share Posted April 16, 2002 [color=deeppink]Well if he hurt you again than he isn't worth it... you are a hot chick and a lot of guys want you! We will have fun in New York and find you a fling there! :D [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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