Turkey Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 I'm ussually shy at the first impresion, but once I get to know the people I do a 180 and become totally outgoing and very social. I really hate first impresions... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shy Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 [color=green]I am very shy (hence the name.) In all of my high school years I haven't been very social at all. But this year I have made alot of newe friends, and am almost considered "popular" at my school. I don't know why I am so shy, it has always seemed to be a problem. I have problems opening up to people I don't know, which in turn makes it even harder for people to get to know me. I am especially bad around girls, but I really don't feel like getting into that right now. :whoops:[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 [color=royalblue]Shyness is a result of a form of self-centeredness. Basically, when you're shy...you have the feeling that everyone is looking at you and noticing what you're doing. The best way to avoid being shy (in my experience) is to think: "Nobody could care less about what I'm doing, I'm just another person in the room." It has never failed me. :)[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicoTranzrig Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 [COLOR=darkblue]I used to think that way...being self-conscious and all...but a friend told me to not care what other people think about you...just don't talk too much and you'll be fine. I'm somewhat talkative now...but I still hold back my tounge at times. I think that shyness is also caused by a chemical imbalance that can be treated through medication...[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyGirl Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by James [/i] [B][color=royalblue]Shyness is a result of a form of self-centeredness. [/color] [/B][/QUOTE] [color=deeppink]I think half of the Otaku population may have been rather offended by that comment upon first glance. Not that your theory is wrong, of course...though I also think a huge part of it is just plain self consciousness. While that may indeed stem from self-centeredness, I think you may have had to experience shyness to understand what it's like. I used to be immensely shy...I am no longer like that. I know both side of the tracks. I know people who are so NOT shy that I usually just want them to shut the hell up. One of the friends I used to hang out with is so incredibly not worried about what people think about her, that she sounds like a 5-year-old every time she opens her mouth. It's not even [i]cute[/i] 5-year-old comments, they're [i]really annoying[/i]...the type of comments that you would just look at her and raise an eyebrow. (Eventually, with her, it got to the point of being unbearable...) I no longer associate myself with her because I can't stand to be around her for long periods of time. She's still quite popular with the males because she's very pretty, but most of them can't see past her beauty to see how she REALLY acts...>_< This may be semi defamation on my part...but I've kept this pent up for a while. Everyone she used to be friends with (my current friends) stopped talking to her and everything...beh V_V[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hikaru Ichijyo Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 :blush: Well I can be very shy towards girls, its actually quite embrassing how shy i get around them, as for the self-centeredness, i don't believe being shy is an act of self centeredness but an act of low self esteem or doubt in yourself. The last thing on your mind when your shy is that everyone is looking at you, that sounds more like paranoia then being shy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicoTranzrig Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 About the self-centeredness part...I think it applies to people who overcome shyness and turn into really talkative ones. Just from the example of a person I know...he used to be really shy, just isolating himself and plaing videogames all day, not saying a word or having really superficial conversations...and now...he's into public speaking, completely overcomes his shyness and...turns into a snob. All he can talk about is how crummy his life is and how others are making it worse for him...yet, he's rich, lives an only-child's life in a 3/4ths million $ house and has everything he could ever want...except a girlfriend, which he doesn't know just happens like the wind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
{Angel}Healer Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 im kinda shy, i talk around and joke with my friends, but mostly im a loner cuz everyone has a best friend or girl/boyfriend and I have neither :( Needless to say, the few friends I have im never shy around but...everything else seems to ignore me like a void of empty space... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicoTranzrig Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by {Angel}Healer [/i] [B]im kinda shy, i talk around and joke with my friends, but mostly im a loner cuz everyone has a best friend or girl/boyfriend and I have neither :( Needless to say, the few friends I have im never shy around but...everything else seems to ignore me like a void of empty space... [/B][/QUOTE] [COLOR=darkblue]That's kinda like what I went through in middle school...don't worry though...give it some time and it'll eventually go away...I think things'll get better later....just keep the friends that you have now, they'll most likely be the one's you'll be friends with for a very long time. ;)[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall Posted May 3, 2002 Author Share Posted May 3, 2002 Yeah, I'm hardly shy around my friends that I've known for ages.... Though around the girls is probably the biggest part of it, then meeting new friends is pretty much the main problems of me being shy at the moment.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted May 3, 2002 Share Posted May 3, 2002 I always thought I was shy. I'm not. I'm often quiet, simply because I don't have anything to say... But no...I'm not shy. -Cera Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KittyLynn Posted May 4, 2002 Share Posted May 4, 2002 I'm not shy..I'm very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very outgoing and hyper and weird and so on.... :D :D :D :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted May 4, 2002 Share Posted May 4, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by BabyGirl [/i] [B] [color=deeppink]I think half of the Otaku population may have been rather offended by that comment upon first glance. Not that your theory is wrong, of course...though I also think a huge part of it is just plain self consciousness. While that may indeed stem from self-centeredness, I think you may have had to experience shyness to understand what it's like. [/color] [/B][/QUOTE] [color=royalblue]Regardless of how I may seem (and even that is difficult for me to personally judge), I'm quite a shy person. And let's face it, shyness comes from the basic thought/feeling that people are looking at you...or that you are the center of someone's attention. Therefore, the best way to overcome shyness (in my own experience), is to actually realize that to other people, you're just another person. I mean, if you see other people in the street, no matter what you think of them...you probably don't think about them for too long. They're "just another person" walking past. If you consider that perspective yourself...it helps you to be more outgoing and to overcome your shyness to some extent. It definitely helps me in some situations. :)[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mina Posted May 4, 2002 Share Posted May 4, 2002 [COLOR=sandy brown]I am kinda shy around a many ppl. This helps me not say anything idiotic before thinking.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicoTranzrig Posted May 4, 2002 Share Posted May 4, 2002 [color=darkblue]It's also a matter of balance...and with most of the people who are shy here, they have school...people know them and see them every single day, but they aren't friends with them and it hurts to realize that some of them can take advantage of your passiveness and they actually do and then you can't do much about it... There's always going to be someone out to get you or make malice with you, it's a strange world.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoenixflames Posted May 4, 2002 Share Posted May 4, 2002 I'm one of those people who you see on the street talking to every stranger that she sees, looking like she's enjoying being the center of attention, but is a very good liar, and this is just a mask she uses to hide her greif. I"m actually very afraid of large groups/audiences. Which isn't good, seeing as I have to give a speech as valedictorian. AHHHH! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall Posted May 5, 2002 Author Share Posted May 5, 2002 Yeah, I'm usually always hanging out with someone after school, it's just [i]at[/i] school that I'm shy.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duo Maxwell Posted May 6, 2002 Share Posted May 6, 2002 well lets just say if you find outgoing and exuberant frinds you tend to loose your shyness fast seeing some of them do crazy stuff.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Magma Dragoon Posted May 7, 2002 Share Posted May 7, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by DeathKnight [/i] [B][color=crimson]I'm extremely outgoing and unshy o-O. In my veiw point, you cant lose much, so just do it and see their reactions at least. But I never did 'fit in' no matter how outgoing I Was. So I usually hung out alone on the playground, throwing rocks at a tree -.-' so, it doesnt really matter if you're shy or not. Its the groups decison of weather to add you into their ranks or not...[/color] [/B][/QUOTE] You just described my elementary years. But now I am in middle school it's differen't. Now I just have fun aka act stupid, you'd be suprised how many friends I accidently made being myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxie Faye Posted May 7, 2002 Share Posted May 7, 2002 This may seem weird, but I'm a little bit of both. When I first meet someone, I'm very shy. If it's in a school situation where I don't really have to talk to them, I most likely won't, but if it's just for a day that I meet that person and I have to spend the day with them, I'll make conversation with them, but just light conversation, if you know what I mean. I think it's hard for me to make conversations with people. I can't even make conversation over the internet. the only way I can have "true" conversation is with friends I know very well. Sometimes, I can get really shy around my friends because I think if I do something wrong I think they'll think I'm weird, which is an odd thing to think, if you read down into my post. I haven't donethings like go shopping, or see a movie with half of the people I hang around at school(my friends) because I'm afraid they'll reject me, which is stupid. For the most part, though, when I'm with people i know, I'm the MOST outgoing person you'll ever meet! I'm really quite crazy(and you thought I just said that for the heck of it;)). I say things like "Happy Birthday" at least once, almost everyday to someone, even though I know it's not their birthday. I do it just for the heck of it. Sometimes, I also sing songs like the happy birthday song really loudly. Sometimes, I'll even sign them in the hall and skip around while going ot my next class! [QUOTE][I]Originally posted by James[/I][B][COLOR=royalblue]Therefore, the best way to overcome shyness (in my own experience), is to actually realize that to other people, you're just another person.[/COLOR][/B][/QUOTE] That's sort of what I think in my head when I do skip down the hallway, singing "happy birthday". I think that half those people aren't going to remember me at all so why should I care if they think I'm crazy? Sometimes, I can be a real hot head and scream things out at people that are annoying me, too. At the time I don't really care what I'm saying, and surprisingly, I've never regretted screaming out. Maybe it's the same theory coming back in a bit of a different way. I feel that I don't care what they think about me at all, because all that matters is what [I]I[/I] think of myself. At other times, I can be quite reserved and non-talkative. Like today, at first, I was feeling really angry, and I almost screamed at one of my friends, and a teacher, not knowingly, of course, made me feel worse. and then, in that same class, I was typing up a poem for that teacher, and while I was typing it up I became so absorbed in it, that I clamed down, and then, until the bell rang at the end of school, I was fairly quiet. I just felt so peaceful and I think because of that, I was quiet. uh... I'm ranting on a telling you my whole life, so i'll stop now. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zidane11 Posted May 7, 2002 Share Posted May 7, 2002 I'm kinda like that to. I know how it feels. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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