Seize the day...

[GinnyLyn]

Well, I've learned something this morning and I've barely woken up.
If you plan to do something on a certain day, tell someone something that you wish you could, but never did--[i]DO IT[/i].
Here's my story why:

My uncle, who was very near and dear to me, got cancer over a year ago. A few weeks ago, the doctors came to the conclusion that it was terminal, there was nothing they could do, etc. About a week after that was announced, I went to visit him, and was scared and upset seeing my favorite, vibrant, nothing-can-keep-me-down uncle strapped to a respirator machine, unable to move. Tore me up inside.
We all knew this was his last week. On Monday, I planned to go see him later today.
But I never got the chance.
He passed away early this morning, and while I hope I don't beat myself up emotionally about this, I do regret not seeing him one last time, to let him know he was my fab uncle here on earth. I know he knows now, but I wish I had had a chance to tell him, like I was going to today.
And yes, I see the implications about me and "Dan". I should tell him right off. I [i]do[/i] want to, I just have to be really really careful. A good friend of mine told me last night that, in the emotional state I am in (finals, uncle, moving, etc), I shouldn't make any life changing decisions at this point. "Tell 'im if you want," she said, "but don't go getting married on Sat."
Excellent teacher, she is.

OK, so please listen--if there's something you've been meaning to do, someone you want to talk to--to tell them you like them, to ask forgiveness, to borrow their gum ^_^--please do it. (Methinks I will try to bump my meeting with "Dan" up to today...)

[Heaven's Cloud]

[color=indigo]Oh Ginny, I am so sorry,my heart goes out to you. Try no to beat yourself up over it though. No matter what you did say and could have said, you always feel that you didn't say enough or do enough for a person when they are gone. Just remember that your uncle will always be with you, looking over your shoulder to help guide you through good times and bad

Also good luck with Dan, I didn't respond to the other thread because the majority already said what I would have said. I am sure he will fall head over heels for a cool chica like you.[/color]

[The Darkness Bu]

You poor thing....

Something simillar happened to me

About 2 years ago when I was 16 me my mom and my cousin were going to organize a little party for all the people at the town's nursing home, my mom said that it be would a good idea to go early and see my grandmother before things get busy, I told her we'll have lots of time we'll go later.....about 20 min. later my mom started crying on the phone, my cousin and me came out and asked why she was cryin'?She said that grandma died, my older sister had gone to see her and when she got there she was on the floor, not moving...I asked my cousin to punch me because I wouldn't go earlier, he refused of course.
Later a few months after that my sister was in her house and her husband and kid were outside they called her outside and they saw 2 clouds, one shaped like a man, one shaped like a women.Excatly over where my grandmother used to live when she was young...my theory about the man, my grandfather died a year after I was born...you be the judge.

[Guest Zeh]

[COLOR=indigo]Awwwwwwww poor Ginny.... I really can't relate to this 'cause no one in my direct family that i know, have died.

There's really not much i can say.... although i think it would be even better if you asked "Dan" today. Once your feeling a bit emotionally hurt.... you can't feel much worser (is that a word yet?)... well, hope for the best! [/COLOR]

[Sara]

Hey sis... I'm here.

[James]

[color=royalblue]Ah that sucks, Ginny. I hope you feel okay.

I agree with you wholeheartedly -- sometimes you need to grab the bull by the horns...sometimes you have to just go out and do something, rather than talk about it.[/color]

[Ryo]

Im so sorry....I dont really have anybody to relate to either. But I know what it feels like. I've lost my favorite bird last year. But again im sorry.

[Guest]

I know how you feel. I was planning on seeing my dad and telling him that I loved him, cuz I knew he was gonna die(cancer as well) I was going to go after I got fof work, but my aunt came and todl me that he died. So I never got the chance.

I try to do all the things that I say from that day onward, because you never know what could happen if you wait.

[Char!]

If it's any comfort, if you believe in that spirits-of-your-family-wathing-over-you stuff, then your uncle can hear whatever you're saying, and understands it all.

And good luck with this "Dan" guy. But by judging your character here at theOtaku, I don't think you'll need any. ;)

[Guest Hikaru Ichijyo]

Sorry to hear that, I lost my aunt last month around this time, lucky I did get to see her in the hospital before she did pass away I agree with your insight never put off something you can do today for tommorrow!

My condolences!:(

[Guest cloricus]

You must remember you could of gone in to see him and the next day he might of died and you would still have this feeling. Not to be insincere.

[Desbreko]

[color=indigo]I'm so sorry... One of my uncles died a few years ago... All I can say is that I'll pray for you, and that I hope you're okay...... There, I just prayed. I hope that you're okay... Please don't beat yourself up emotionally, though; if anything, it will just make it worse. I know, I've done it, it just makes me depressed...

I hope everything goes well with "Dan." ...You know, there's this girl I know that I like... But I'm also too shy to do anything... That, and I'm only 14, and she's only a couple months older, so we're too young to "go out." ...But I think I'll try and get to know her better. We were good friends when we were younger, but then I didn't really see her much for a long time. So I kind of already know her, but I'd like to be friends again. Thanks for the inspiration, it's just what I needed![/color]