How do you express your feelings?

[Amphion]

Anyone who read the BLind date post probably knows that I am going through a relationship problem, but I am also going through other problems too. I have all these feelings built up inside of me. I have been looking for ways to express these feelings. I have tried some poetry, writing stories, art, music, and more. I can not find one that lets me express my self fully, know what I mean. Its like all those thing I tried do not turn out right, they just suck and I get discouraged. I am asking for your help. What do you guys do to express your feelings? If you can just give me some ideas that would be nice. I hate to bother you with my problems but these feelings need to get out. Its killing me inside.

[Shinkoru]

dude,..I never read the other one but I can see's u have been hurt,.. Its ok I'm their well just got outta their. I find that well..agression..is the only way to release it. Trust me. Beat up a pillow, join karati, get a punching bag. it helps. Really. If not, talk. To some one, me if u want to. I'll listen, it helps to tell some one hoe you feel, i should know i never have til recently. But really you can mail me. I'll help. [email][email protected][/email] or Icehacler13 on aol instant messenger. Talk to me, it'll help.

[Charles]

Well, honestly you've tried what helps me, namely art and writing.

I know a couple things that might help you vent your emotions.

Get a sheet of paper and a pencil. Simply let your emotions move the pencil for you. It is quite possible to draw what you're feeling. Don't think, just move the pencil according to how you feel. You mentioned that you tried art, but maybe you didn't try this. If you haven't, then maybe you'll find some results with this method.

If that doesn't help at all, try talking with someone close to you, similar to how you posted your message. Sometimes, just getting your feelings off your chest vocally, can really help.

Lastly, just screaming can relieve a lot of stressful feelings. Just find a place to be alone and yell.

I didn't read the Blind Date thread. Perhaps I should, but the solutions I listed are viable for most problems.

[Amphion]

All I meant by the blind date thread isthat I mentioned in it that I was having a relationship problem, so you dont have to go read it unless you want to.

Im interested in what you said about the drawing what you feel. I intend on trying that sometime. maybe Ill post the results.

Talking about it helps. but when it starts to get deep in to my emotions and into personal things it gets real hard to talk about.

I do meditate about these things alot. I will sit on a grassy hill during the day looking at the sky and just meditate on the things happening. But all that seems to do is build up more emotions inside me.

[wrist cutter]

I never feel comfortable about talking to others about such things, and I'm unable to do anything artistic about my "emotions" so I dunno exactly what I do. I try to regulate my thinking I guess, and just take life one day at a time. If it's something that is recurring, or that I can't just brush off, then I just deal with it however I can, if I can. Otherwise, well, sucks for me.

Sometimes I just sit in my closet listening to ballads and slow songs though, I guess that's one way I deal with things.

[Alley Catt]

Emotions are the worst thing about being human. It really suxs! But in the end it is up to you to work out what to do with them. Take in all the advise and make a decision, because sooner or later it will all come out. Weather you like it or not. (sorry if it sounds depressing. It just came out that way)
Good Luck:D

[Boba Fett]

I draw, and exercise when I am feeling upset or depressed. It helps me a lot.

Either that or I come on the boards and write down my feelings to try and sort them out and get advice, like you just did.

[James]

[color=coral]I personally tend to talk to people that I really trust, like my partner, for example.

That allows me to know that I'm talking to someone who respects me and who will listen to my thoughts and feelings without being judgemental.

Having said that, I don't always want to burden others with my deeper thoughts...and sometimes, it's good to listen to music or even just sit and think. Sometimes if I have a big issue on my mind, I tend to think alloud...and actually go through the problem myself. That tends to help me in some situations, because I can actually sit there and work out everything step by step.

But really, everyone is different. And each of us has our own way of dealing with problems in our lives.

I just hope that you find a way of dealing with your problems, where you feel comfortable doing so. :)[/color]

[Chaos]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by James [/i]
[B][color=coral]I personally tend to talk to people that I really trust, like my partner, for example.[/color] [/B][/QUOTE]


What if your partner goes and betrays you behind your back?


That's what happened to me once... Which is why I've got all this anger. I can't take it out on anyone without the risk of killing them (Trust me, it's come very close to that before...). I can't just take a pillow out and hit it because I did that once and it...kinda...imploded and stuff. O_o;;; I can't draw because...I can't draw. O_o;;;

So what do I do? I sit here, steeming... Until one day I just snap. In which case look for the mushroom cloud looming omniously in the horizon... You'll know who it is. ;P

[Kent]

usually in times like such i try and phisically do stuff; exerise helps me alot.
i also have noticed that my art inturn goes in strides where one week i will be on top of my game and then a week later its all rubish.
i think that just having the exerise probally releases chemicals in my brain. endorphines or something and then i just feel better in general.
as for a blind date. good luck, and if you need advice, theres always be your self.

[Corey]

When I get emotionally constipated I usually meditate.
You said you tried that and all it does is make it worse.:(
My advice to you thenm is to buy a treadmill or go running around your city.
Running seems to help me.
I seem to be able to sort out my problems when all my muscles are tired and aching.
Try it, maybe it will work for you too.

[Queen Asuka]

[color=crimson][size=1]I usually always have to have someone to talk to. I need someone to listen to me and give me advice. Anna is the best person in the world to talk to...if only she could reply to this thread. I also like to draw when I'm feeling down. I can usually get my emotions into what I'm drawing and end up with a well done piece of artwork. And like Boba Fett says, exercising is GREAT. Go run a mile or two, do some sit ups and push ups, anything that keeps your body working too hard to focus on your emotions. It's a great stress reliever.[/color][/size]

[KittyLynn]

I Draw or write poems about how I feel.
Or I just ride and sit in a big field that i call FennyWolde.
I just think and stuff.

Or just talk to my horses, they are good listeners...

[Guest Matt]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by SuperSayian [/i]
[B]


What if your partner goes and betrays you behind your back?


That's what happened to me once... Which is why I've got all this anger. I can't take it out on anyone without the risk of killing them (Trust me, it's come very close to that before...). I can't just take a pillow out and hit it because I did that once and it...kinda...imploded and stuff. O_o;;; I can't draw because...I can't draw. O_o;;;

So what do I do? I sit here, steeming... Until one day I just snap. In which case look for the mushroom cloud looming omniously in the horizon... You'll know who it is. ;P [/B][/QUOTE]

[color=red][b]I have had the same thing happen to me. I poured all my feeling and secrects into my first girlfriend. Only to find out that she then, told all her friends. It was the most enraging moment in my life when i found out. She was laughing too. I nearly took a gun a shot her right there. i was so angry.[/b][/color]

[PiroMunkie]

[color=indigo]It depends on the kind of feeling it is. I express different feelings in different ways. I tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve. So if I'm mad, you'll know I'm mad. Let's see, if I'm angry, I usually hit things. Not people though, or anything that can easy break. Only hit/throw the unbreakables. But if you hit something, make sure it won't break you. If I'm sad/depressed, I sulk and wallow in self pity until it passes. Even online people can tell when I feel this way cause of the lack of smileys used when I talk (those that I talk to on AIM know what I'm talking about:p). I am usually not one that likes to talk about my problems. I only talk about them to only certain people, and even then I am reluctant. I don't believe on getting help from other people, cause I want to learn how to deal with things on my own, but occasionally you have to ask someone.[/color]

[Amphion]

Thanks to all of you for helping. I got a good idea from my freind. When I am mad, It helps me to release that anger if I break something. So he suggested that I go to the dollar store and buy a box of these christmas tree balls. Now when I get really angry or feel I need to vent, I pick one of these balls up and throw it against the wall, stomp on it, or any other way to break it. It really helps me. And most importantly there not to hard to clean up.

I just have trouble telling people about my more personal things. Also meditating doesnt always make things worse, just sometimes meditating on a subject gets me flustered and then it goes downhill. Maybe with my new method of venting, meditating will be more effective.

Im still looking for a more positive, and less destructive way of expressing my emotions, but at least I am making progress!

thanks again to all of you for the help. I feel now that I owe you guys a favor, so if you ever need anything, just hit me up.

[The Unholy Newt]

Get a punching bag. Or a sound proof room and scream your head off.

[Steph]

Sometimes I play music... or write in a diary... or eat comfort-food like chocolate... or call up a friend... if all else fails, destroy something.

[Mist]

I must say that I write and/or paint. Both the actvities are done with humming; all of these calm me down very much, very quickly.

[Ninjaman]

emotions, huh? when junior high started for me, i had no good friend, since my previous one left the school. then one guy started being friends with me, everything was good and steady. then sixth grade came. my class was small(13) and the other guys entered my life. i don't know if i'm thankful for them or despise them, those guys introduced to emotional pain.....

i have a whole story about those guys, but i don't want to go into that buisness just yet. all of the guyseventually became my friends and one of them wanted to "counsel" me since he know about how i hated those guys when made fun of me. as much as i was embarassed to him everything, it helped in a wierd way too. but my best way to help me through my emotions is by drawing.

[Amphion]

Yeah thats another thing,DS, I am at one of those times where I feel like I do not have a good freind. Yeah theres people I talk to but they are not like good freinds that will be there for you when you need them. You guys here are better friends then what I have now.

[PiroMunkie]

[color=indigo]Just to let you know, cramming all your feelings inside you and never sharing them doesn't help. I know from experience. I do this. Not too long ago, I can't remember when, something just broke (not snapped) inside of me and I was as close to dead a living person can get. I'm not saying I was close to killing myself or being killed. I just, shut down. I didn't talk (at [i]all[/i]), my breathing was [i]really[/i] slow, my heart rate was really slow, I didn't move, I didn't take my eyes out of a blank stare, and all the while my mom was right next to me scared to death. Then every once in a while I would just burst out crying for no apparent reason. Then I'd just go back to how I was. This went on for about three hours. Then finally I came back to life and started talking, but still severely disturbed. Although, it all turned out good for me.. kind of.. Cause my mom made me quit my job, which I hated but she wouldn't let me quit before. She started being more careful around me for a little while. Although things are back to the way they are now.. Hopefully I'll be out of this house before that happens again.[/color]

[Turkey]

Piro's right. If you keep it all inside, you'll either explode (like I once did) or you'll just break inside.

My favorite way of dealing with emotions is either drawing, reading, or playing a video game. Ahhh...Nothing like blowing up 21 persons with a rocket to release stress...

[RicoTranzrig]

[COLOR=darkblue]Often, I express my feelings through speaking out (spoken word) or just writing. Usually not in front of an audience...but just a good friend willing to take a few blows to the ear drums to have me get better.[/COLOR]

[ZeroBlade]

I don't express my feelings at all.-_- This is probably the first time I even told others what I even do with them. I keep all of my feelings to myself, and just think, and think and think.

I have been through so many situations in life and I kept my all my feelings that bothered me the most to myself. Some people say this isn't 'healthy' and usually leads to nervous break downs....which I unforunately had.... Why I kept it to myself? I guess because I wanted to use it to make me a better person. It certainly helped me remember alot of things in my past....But I think thats just about it.

I think its giving me a hard time with people too, espically women. I try to talk to the people I know in college and such but it usually small talk and it bothers me that I see the same people having huge conversations with others.... Its funny too that I'm like a magent to people who ask me to help them about something (espcially on AIM) and I sometimes can't help myself. Often, I tell them what I think they should do and ofthen they liked my answer so much that I literally could've charged them for my advice everytime they asked something else! It started to annoy me and its becuase of this I had to change my AIM settings so only those I know are fun to talk with can IM me. (If you wanna chat with me, you have to give me your Screen name first)

.............enough of this....time to go back to work.