Ryan Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 [size=1] The worst word in the world!!!!:bawl: I went to church with my mom this morning and she started crying for some reason. I didn't know what was wrong but I tried to comfort her as good as I could. Then I got home and she told me and my sisters. I have been crying all afternoon and I can't stop. But I am sorta glad. I always hated my dad. :mad: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: I am glad that I have everyone here to talk to me and I am glad that I got this off of my back....:bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genkai Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 OHHH MAN! :(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:( i know that doesn't help, so i wann tell you something.. YOU HAVE US! anyway, at least you have your sisters to use as a shoulder to cry on.... think of it this way: 1.You didn't like your dad(or so you say..), and he's out of the picture! You'll also be ab;e to see him when you want too, but he wont be on your back 24/7! 2. Your parents wouldn't do this unless it was for you best interest. It might hurt know, but years from know you'll look back, and say:"Wow. My parents are happier now. So am I!" 3. Your getting it ot of your system! Crying is good for you! If we didn't I think faith in humanity would disappear... 4. You're not wallowing in your sorrow all aone and isolating yourslef from others, you know that others will understand. 5. Pain has to go away, and the sweet feeling of friendliness, happiness, and trust will return. What goes up, must come down... I REALLY HOPE I HELPED! I FEEL YOU! NO PITY HERE! JUSY SYMPATHY/EMPATHY! much hope for your well being, a caring user! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 [color=deeppink] [size=1]My parents just divorced two months ago. I'm sorta happy they did because they've been fighting forever.... the divorce was mainly my dad's fault, but I just moved to California to live with him. It's hard, but I'm just glad that they're both happier now. If you try to think of it that way, it's alot easier to handle. It was very hard at first, but after thinking about it for a while, I thought, If I really wanted the best for my parents, wouldn't it be better if I just did let them divorce, instead of both of them having to argue each day, just to try and live together for me? That's where I stopped crying and just tried to forget about it. They both love me, and even more when we're apart. It has a bitter feeling, but you get used to it.[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryan Posted July 28, 2002 Author Share Posted July 28, 2002 [size=1] Thanks you guys. I am starting to calm down now. I am only 12. I am going to church tonight to talk to my pastor about this. I really appreciate you guys!!! [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandy Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 Now now...I know it hurts, but if your dad has been a bad one, then your mother made the right choice -for all of you! Nothing's more horrible than living with a person you hate, trust me, I've been there! I cried too when I left home, but I got over it because I knew everything was going to be okay after that. It's important to have real people around you at a time like that. And i'm sure you and your family will get over it and live a more happy life. Of course it's awful to lose a parent, but you still have your mother and sisters. Everything's going to be alright! Just cheer up, and think positive!:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 [color=deeppink] [size=1]I'm 13, but I found a way to relax and move on. I didn't want my parents to have to get mad everyday just because of me. So if you want your parents to be happy, then don't ya think that it was the right thing for them to have a divorce? Just think about it that way, and It'll make you feel alot better about the divorce.[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genkai Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 yeah, talking to your pastor would be a good idea....i'm 12 too, and things are harder on you the less you know the world and cherish it..... and here's some more things: 6. Both of your parents must love you, because they must've had you in mind when this was decided, but they'll show you their love more if you don't see them as much! So who's going to live with whom where? Whatever, they'll love you just as much. 7. There's also other things you can depend on to cheer you up besides us(though we will, of course), like music. Try Res, Marvin Gaye, and Jazz or Blues, and your own instrument(if you play or have one)! 8. This experience will help prepare you for life. I know everything that happens to me can be depended on to clear a path for you. Coming ot of this will make you wiser, more faithful, and more understanding! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genkai Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 Trouble so hard by Vera Hall is great music for a time like this....oh, and India.Arie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 [color=deeppink] [size=1]dude, don't double post.[/color] [/size] [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by genkai_yyh [/i] [B] 6. Both of your parents must love you, because they must've had you in mind when this was decided, but they'll show you their love more if you don't see them as much! So who's going to live with whom where? Whatever, they'll love you just as much.[/B][/QUOTE] [color=deeppink] [size=1]*cough* Yeah, that's good and all, but it gets really annoying if your mom calls you everyday.... ^^'[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flipmodesquad Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 Yeah im here for you too ^_^ And i hope everything turns out alright for you^_^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kazuko Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 (edited) ... Edited October 13, 2017 by Kazuko Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mist Posted July 28, 2002 Share Posted July 28, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Juuthena [/i] [B][color=deeppink] [size=1] the divorce was mainly my dad's fault, [/color] [/size] [/B][/QUOTE] [color=crimson][size=1] As far as I knew, it takes two sides to make a story, Juu. Noodlez, all I can say is to keep your chin up. I can't giv any advice or anything, seeing how I haven't been through the situation at hand. (Although my parents are darn well near it...) Wel, good luck and if ya need to talk, I'm here. :)[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Avalon Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 I understand what you're coming from...my parents "divorced" when I was 9...well not really, they weren't married to begin with... Anyway, I was sad but I didn't like my dad either and I had a good reason too...let's just say he didn't treat my mom like he should... Well, she remarried and my step father is tres cool...but I don't see my dad that much...anyway, keep yo' head up!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 [color=deeppink] [size=1]um... how can they "divorce" if they were never married in the first place?[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 Thus the quote marks... So sorry to hear it, Noodlez. You're more than welcome to talk to me if you wish..I can't offer much in the way of advice, but I can listen, and that often helps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Cera [/i] [B]Thus the quote marks... [/B][/QUOTE] Exactly what I was thinking... Anyho, I'm sorry to hear about your parents, man. Luckily for me, I never had to deal with divorce between my parents. I wish you all the best. -Justin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicoTranzrig Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 [COLOR=darkblue]Sorry to hear that man...if you wanna talk, my boxes are open as well.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chaos Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 No offence or nothing, man, but statistically, you had a half and half chance of this happening. Trust me, though, it's better to have them seperated than screaming and throwin **** around all the time. Besides, you can still see them both if you want. But then, you just said your dad was an arse, so what's really to be sad about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 Neil, you are probably the most insensitive person I have ever met, and you are REALLY getting on my nerves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryan Posted July 29, 2002 Author Share Posted July 29, 2002 [size=1] Thank you everyone. I am very happy to see everyone that posted. I have gotten it stuck in my brain so that I don't try and doubt what I heard. Yes, I never liked my dad at all so I am happy. I knew it was going to turn up this way. There were so many signs. But anyway, thank you to everyone. It really means a lot to me.:)[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charles Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 Well, it's good to hear that you're feeling better. Both of your parents need you right now. Breaking up a marriage with children will hurt them very much. The most important thing you can do now is just be their for them. Even if you don't like your father very much, he must be torn up on the inside.... Come to think of it, his marital problems may have been the reason for his behavior. Maybe you will be able to develop a better relationship with him now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muse Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 My Parents got divorced about Six years ago when I was four,And know my mom Lives in California,and I see her for about forteen days every year...She gave me this Panther Plushie when I visited her last June,I love him because he reminds me of Her,All soft and cuddly...I'm glad you feel better,\¤~NoodleZ~¤/:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiroMunkie Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 [color=indigo]I'm probably a little late on this, I would have posted earlier, but my mom called me up to dinner. My parents divorced last Autumn. Yes it hurts, but you'll get over it... unless it's somehow traumatized you. Though you seem to be doing pretty well now even considering how yound you are. When my parents separated, the initial shock wore off by the next day. It wasn't a bad divorce. It's not like they can't stand each other, and fought for custody, etc. I live with my mom, and I see my dad whenever. Holidays are shared, except for Thanksgiving, which is alternated every year. If you never liked your father, chalk one up for the positives. Usually if you take the time to actually look at the pros and cons of a divorce, the pros will outweigh the cons. Unless you are losing a lot, which you don't seem to be. Just do what you need to get over it and enjoy the rest of your life, you've got along road ahead of you. Deal with things as they come and move on.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 sorry that this happened to you, it must be pretty tough right now. but I'm sure everything'll work out for the better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinetic Posted July 29, 2002 Share Posted July 29, 2002 [color=darkblue] I'm really sorry about your parents getting divorced, and it must be torturing them to break up with a child in the mix, as CWB said. The best thing you can do is support them through this period, and try to keep calm. As CWB also noted, your relationship could improve with your father now. Hope you're ok :( [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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