Kinetic Posted July 30, 2002 Share Posted July 30, 2002 [color=darkblue] Well, as you all know, actually...you don't, but I went shopping for school clothes today, and I chose some...odd things, and the person I was shopping with told me that I had to get [i]some[/i] normal looking shirts, so I did, and when I came home with 3 normal ones, and about 4-5 oddball ones (I love them, though, they are comfortable, I don't know anything about style, and if I think it doesn't look bad, I'll wear it), well, obviously, it's a mortal sin to be different. I get home, and my mother freaks out when she sees my shirts, and they aren't that bad at all. One has the army design on it, one has some wierd dragons on the bottom (I got it because of the designs on the top), two red and black fire ones, and one other, and she says she hates them. I'm keeping them, although she wants me to wear my normal ones as much as I can, and the first thing that goes through my mind is burning the normal ones :p What do you think about this issue, and do you follow style? Because I know for one that I don't, and I'll wear whatever I like as long as they allow it at school. [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Char! Posted July 30, 2002 Share Posted July 30, 2002 [color=teal][size=1]I hate when parents try to do that to you. They need to get it through their heads at some point that their kids think differently than them. Me, I follow my own personal style, which some may consider cool, and which others may truly disrespect. But ah, who cares, y'know? My parents won't stop me from wearing what I want. :) --Mike[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted July 30, 2002 Share Posted July 30, 2002 I don't wear something because my parents want me to, but I've never had a problem with them. If there was something I really wanted that, for some reason they didn't like, I wouldn't get it. Who cares? It's just a shirt. It's not like what I wear is the ultimate expression of who I am. And I don't know what "the style" is so I couldn't tell you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted July 30, 2002 Share Posted July 30, 2002 Oh Aries... The neverending, cosmic struggle of parents versus teen fashion. It has been waged for ages and won't stop for anything. I follow my own style. I wear the baggiest and largest bottomed pants I can find (I looked at a pair of 72" diamiter bottoms recently) shirts that usually have some odd design on them or some wierd saying, lots and lots of metal, and boots. My mom doesn't care at all. My dad, however, was in the Marines. He still irons his bluejeans. Whenever we are going out to a 'classy' restaurant I dress all in black and wear the only pair of baggy black pants I own. I shuffle out of the door and we get into a screaming argument about how my cloths are unacceptable. I don't own any 'dress cloths'. The most normal thing I have is a collered grey t-shirt. My dad tries to make wear normal things all the time. When he buys me stuff the shirt or shorts or whatever mysteriously find their way into his drawrs. Then when he wants me to wear them I say "But you've messed them all up!" These arguments sually end up with me getting grounded. If you want your mother to feel better about the way you dress, just wait untill I get my picture up on OtakuBoards. Then she will freak out. I wear spikes on neclaces, grossly baggy cloths, ballbearing chains, I tried to wear a bike chain once, large metal rings, and soon I hope to buy some of those finger spikes. I am also going to pay for the red-eye contacts soon. Tolerate the normal cloths, or carry a change in you backpack. Switch when you get to school. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SunRiZe Posted July 30, 2002 Share Posted July 30, 2002 my parents never have a problem with the way I dress, actually if they pick clothes out for me, for my birthday or whatnot, they're actually pretty good a choosing the good stuff :p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinetic Posted July 30, 2002 Author Share Posted July 30, 2002 [quote][i]Originally posted by wrist cutter[/i][b] I don't wear something because my parents want me to, but I've never had a problem with them. If there was something I really wanted that, for some reason they didn't like, I wouldn't get it. Who cares? It's just a shirt. It's not like what I wear is the ultimate expression of who I am. And I don't know what "the style" is so I couldn't tell you.[/b][/quote] [color=darkblue] I agree, but what I was saying, is that when you buy something, and plan on wearing it, why should they butt in? It's your own free choice (hopefully), and if you "get made fun of" as she puts it (which I won't), I wouldn't care, I've been the social outcast all of my life, I get made fun of all the time, and just hang around close friends. I don't care if I get made fun of, and I believe that I should be able to wear what I want (as long as it's in the dress code, which it is). It just got on my nerves, because she wouldn't lay off, and my dad probably won't even care. It's my choice. If I knew I would get made fun of, I would probably wear it, because I don't really care. I'm growing my hair out, too, and she got onto me for that, but I finally persuaded her to let it slide. [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted July 30, 2002 Share Posted July 30, 2002 :devil: Now dye your hair neon-blue! :devil: :devil: :devil: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinetic Posted July 30, 2002 Author Share Posted July 30, 2002 [color=darkblue] Actually, I'm thinking about it :p Not something punk, though, that'd be taking it too far, I'll probably pull the back into a pony-tail, have the front parted down the middle, and streak parts of it blonde. [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyGirl Posted July 30, 2002 Share Posted July 30, 2002 [color=deeppink]I think that girls get equal parental disapproval for what they wear. I know [i]I[/i] used to get the, "I don't want you going out in that!" when I was younger. I think it's more necessary to watch what young girls are wearing rather than what boys are. When girls dress in stuff that's TOO exposing, it can bring unwanted attention from unwanted...males. Parents should just let kids dress how they want, especially guys, unless a girl is dressing too provocatively. I sound like an old lady in saying that, but half of the time when I see girls wearing revealing clothes, they don't exactly have the body that compliments those kind of clothes...LOOK IN THE MIRROR! IF IT DOESN'T LOOK GOOD, DON'T WEAR IT! :drunk: That's a pet peeve of mine...V___V But anyway, back to parents censoring young girls' clothes. As I've gotten older my parents have basically let me wear anything I want, and every now and then I enjoy wearing clothes that do compliment the body I've worked hard to keep in shape. But as a drawback, I've gotten WAY too much unwanted attention from dirty 40 year old guys in rapist vans...and such...and it's scary :nervous: I wouldn't want my young girl going out, dressed in revealing clothes, and attracting attention from potentially dangerous men...the idea just isn't kosher with me ^_^ Though, Aries, I think your mom should definitely let you keep those if you want...and not complain. Allowing a kid to express their style is good! More parents should understand that.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted July 30, 2002 Share Posted July 30, 2002 Amen BabyGirl! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 I just think some of the fashions these days are ridiculous. Just wear normal clothes and you'll be fine. People do judge you based on what you wear, and I don't think you'd want to come off as trash. A recent fad around here has been the trash look, actually. Long, flea-infested hair, ratty old black jeans, some sort of ugly belt with metal attachments, and usually a black hooded sweatshirt, unless it's too hot in which case they wear a faded old black shirt. Why dress in such an ugly way? I feel like most people have taken expression-through-fashion a little too far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryan Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 I am very glad my parents let me where whatever I want and they have never had a problem with it. They may start butting in whenever I get around 15 years old or so. But right now they have never complained and I am glad that they understand, or so I think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genkai Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 well, when iI shop, it's either w/ friends or w/ my parents, and my parents always give me the oney to buy them...so i buy what i want and if someone suggests something and i want it, im not going to try to defy anything or whatever....anyway, I guess i don't really care about style now, so, whatever....im still clinging to my cargos O.o.....now, reading this thread, im wondering when clothes turned into a form of self expression......maybe w/ elvis...:p well, aries, the straight answer is that they shouldn't but in....whatever they say can go into your earhole, but nobody should force you or anything... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinetic Posted July 31, 2002 Author Share Posted July 31, 2002 [color=darkblue] I agree with that, and I will continue to wear what I want. If they want to get rid of my clothes, they can, but I'll get new ones, and..yeah...And I agree with wrist cutter...that 'style' doesn't sound very good...And the cloths I got aren't really abnormal, because alot of people wear them, but she won't give up. One thing I do agree with is BabyGirl's point of view about young girls showing too much. I think they should be allowed to wear what they want, but not too far, and the same with guys...although I don't think many guys go around dressing very revealing :p At least, I don't see it much... [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 [color=deeppink] [size=1]hmm... I usually pick out my own clothes... well anyway, my mom has a pretty good sence of fashion.. and buys me some pretty good ones when she goes shopping in her spare time. They look good, not anything to wierd or erm... exposing? and aries, I don't think those pants were anything bad.... *shrugs* maybe it's just that some parents from 60's-ish are used to colorful stuff.. *shrugs* lol.[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Navi Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 I see nothing wrong with being different but some people take it overboard. Trying to be different just to be different is stupid. And conformity is alright sometimes. When I was younger I'd dress up in wacky ways because I wanted to, and now that I look back at it, it was just ridiculous. Yeah, that was me. Green hair, baggy jeans, cartoon/band shirt. I grew out of it and found that the only way you really [i]can[/i] be different, is by actually thinking. There is a form of power in the way people dress. People will assume and pidgeonhole. So by dressing differently you can change what people think about you. [off topic]Don't think that shopping at Hot Topic makes you any different than people that shop at the Gap either. 75 bucks for ripped jeans? Ha. Yeah, you must be really punk.[/off topic] And while we're talking about clothes, I think public schools should allow freedom of expression when it comes to what is written and drawn on clothing because it provokes thought. And I don't mean that they should allow people to wear pictures of naked women on their shirts, use your head. I mean that a couple of curse words here and there shouldn't not be permissible, so it goes for freedom of speech also. But even that we don't have absolute. [quote]Originally posted by Aries: [b]What do you think about this issue, and do you follow style?[/b][/quote] I follow the drumbeat to my own song. I usually buy my clothes from thrift stores. I don't get why people dislike second hand. Eww it's dirty. Then wash it, idiot. And most of the clothes at second hand stores are donated by first hand stores. People that refuse to buy something from a store, or go into/near it just because the majority of consumers are [insert stereotype here] are stupid. That's almost like being racist. Oh, and my mom nags me all the time about the way I dress. I guess because not wearing skirts automatically makes you boyish. Sucks that when a female participates in a male dominated sport or the like, she becomes tomboyish. I hear that being independent for females makes them tomboys also. Maybe it's a myth... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Forte Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 I hate that, my parents don't lemme buy all the shirts... I mean, not all of them have women on them :naughty: But I'm serious... They have lightened up though, because I think I got it thru their heads I will not be what they want me to be and I'll be what I want to be... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinetic Posted July 31, 2002 Author Share Posted July 31, 2002 [color=darkblue] I agree that some people take it overboard, and I don't care about shopping at Abercrombie or anything, I'll just go to some local store and buy them...although, I think clothes are very overpriced. I also don't follow fashion, and I wear what I'm comfortable in. I don't shop at thrift-stores, really, because I don't like used things...I guess it's a phobia of mine, and it's not because of the people that shop there, seeing as how I've shopped there too, just usually not for clothes. I also hate sterotypes, and everything about them, although, I guess sometimes I used to fall victim to them, but I hate them now. Very wise words Navi. [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Navi [/i] [B]Trying to be different just to be different is stupid.[/B][/QUOTE] You really think so? I am different because I choose to be. My outlook is different than most, my state of mind is different than most... Why should [i]I[/i] not be different than most? I parade my differences. As for the ripped cloths thing, that is one line that I will not cross. Why would you but a pair of ripped pants for thirty dollars more when you can buy the same style for thirty less and rip them yourself? It's dumb to buy something that another person has already ripped. And on the thirft store note, I would buy there also except that they usually don't carry my size. So I have to buy other cloths for more money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 Um, it's just a simple thing. If you're being different just to be different, you're denying yourself just to be cool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Navi Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by DarkOrderKnight [/i] [B]You really think so? I am different because I choose to be. My outlook is different than most, my state of mind is different than most... Why should [i]I[/i] not be different than most? I parade my differences.[/b][/quote] Yeah, I really think so. Take doing something you might love to do for example. Skating. Then skating gets popular and some people drop it because everyone else seems to be doing it. How can people drop something they love just because it's popular, then pick up something that they might even hate just to be different. In that sense, it's stupid. I'm not saying you shouldn't be different than most, but that it's ok to not be (out of your own free will) when the circumstances are correct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 Ah, see... I don't consider myself cool, nor am I trying to be it. I wear what I wear because it represents my state of mind. The people that dress prepy and wear 80 dollar t-shirts dress that way because they believe that more expensive is better. That is their state of mind. The people that wear normal stuff wear that because their state of mind is normal. And the people that wear tiny tiny tubetops that, when taken off, are about the size of a rubber band wear that because their state of mind is that looks get you things. Why shouldn't I dress how I think? EDIT- I was responding to wristcutter. Sorry if that sounded odd but we posted at virtually the same time. And if I liked skating, and it became unearthly popular, I would not drop it because it is popular. I would contiue to skate because I liked it and was passionate about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Navi Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by DarkOrderKnight [/i] [B]I wear what I wear because it represents my state of mind.[/b][/quote] That's pretty good actually. [quote][i]Originally posted by DarkOrderKnight[/i] [b]The people that dress prepy and wear 80 dollar t-shirts dress that way because they believe that more expensive is better. That is their state of mind. The people that wear normal stuff wear that because their state of mind is normal. And the people that wear tiny tiny tubetops that, when taken off, are about the size of a rubber band wear that because their state of mind is that looks get you things.[/b][/quote] What a bunch of generalizations, but I think sometimes people that dress 'preppy' do it because they can afford it. Maybe people that wear 'normal' stuff do it to deceive others into thinking they're normal. [quote][i]Originally posted by DarkOrderKnight[/i] [b]Why shouldn't I dress how I think? [/B][/QUOTE] Rhetoric. =) But I'll answer it anyway: Go for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyper Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 its not my clothes it more like what i want to do with my hair but we have come to an agreement. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted July 31, 2002 Share Posted July 31, 2002 Most people who are different for the sake of being different are trying to be cool. There's no other reason why they'd do it. And not cool like popular, but people saying stuff about them like "That guy is such a loner...". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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