Advice

[KittyLynn]

My friend..
Well shes my cuz...shes not married yet but she is going to get married in June..she is 21 and in university. She really wants a baby, but she asked me...yah me!!!for advice, now since i wouldn't know...im wondering if any of you guys would know...like those of you that are parents in school or something???

She needs to know soon, because in about a few weeks she will be ready to have a baby????should she have one??or wait till shes married??or wait till she gets out of university

[amibasuki]

[FONT=arial]she should at least wait until she's got a permanent living situation figured out. but I think it'd be better for her to wait until after she's married.[/FONT]

[Duo Maxwell]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by amibasuki [/i]
[B][FONT=arial]she should at least wait until she's got a permanent living situation figured out. but I think it'd be better for her to wait until after she's married.[/FONT] [/B][/QUOTE]

That and out of Uni.

how long is it till she's finished in university? cause if its like a few months then being pregnant shouldn't affect her studies too much, but if she has a few years and stuff then that could get in the way

[Charles]

Well, she's only twenty-one years old. She has plenty of time in her life to have children.

She should finish her schooling before having a child, because it will become difficult for her to balance the responsibilities of studying, attending class, and making arrangements for the child. I assume that she also works to some extent. That's a lot to have on one plate. Plus, she would have to juggle a relationship with her husband.

Her best course of action from where I stand, is to iron out her married life, finish schooling and find a suitable career.

She'll be a lot happier when her goals have been completed, when she's had time to adjust to married life, and when she has a clear means to provide for her child.

That's my two cents.

[Foredaddy]

I definately agree with Crazy White Boy. Having children can and will come whenever. If these two are truly meant to be together they will wait til their careers are in check before they go making their lives 100X harder. Babies arent all fun and totally cuteness. They poo all over and get kidnapped by evil entities and are almost possessed by them in order for that entity to rule the lands once more, but maybe just maybe a group of 4 kick arse mofos will show up in time to zap the evil entity with their highly dangerous proton packs and positively charged slime. Yep. Wait... thats Ghostbusters 2. Sorry. ;)
Also she should lose 20 pounds and consult a mirror for further instructions. :devil:

[Rancid]

[COLOR=darkblue]She needs to wait, she has her whole life ahead of her. wait a couple years or so, there's no rush to have a baby.[/COLOR]

[Kent]

yea, it seems for one rare time that the boards members agree.

dont rush into it, is what I say.

what until school is over and until she is married.

for all the reasons everyone else mentioned, but also just because when your in school and 21, alot of things can change in those few years right after.

I doubt she would want a single decision to rule her life from here out.

Im sure this is the right guy for her and all that, but things really do change alot in those few years after college (or high school for that matter) and making a life changing decision during those times might be in "haste".

she should continue her course as she sees fit, but you couldnt hurt her situation by telling her to wait just alittle while.

[Mitch]

[color=red] I would also wait. It is foolish to have a baby and throw the rest of your working career out into the garbage. She has her whole life to have a child, so just wait until she's really ready.[/color]

[Kei]

[color=blue]If I were her, I would wait until I finished my schooling and got a very secure job before I even thought about having a child. After that, I would make sure that my husband has a good attitude around children, that we both have the patience, and that we both are prepared for all the things that come with parenthood- the 3:00 am feedings, the crying, the changing of the diaper every half-hour. It's not a walk in the park to raise a child. She needs to sort out her priorities first before doing anything.[/color]

[Corey]

I have know far to many people (friends and otherwise) that have had a kid before they have gotten out of school and have had to drop out, give up the baby, give the child away, gotten the child taken away, have been left by their significant other because their schedule leaves no time for one-on-one time, etc...
I really think your cousin should wait. As CWB said, she has plenty of time to have a child.

[zidane11]

She needs to finish school and get a good job and a house before she has a baby. It will be a whole lot easier if she does.

[Ryan]

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Don't let her throw her whole life away. Finish school and get marries before thinking about a baby. That doesn't mean that she should go find a husband real fast and have a baby. She should wait a few years or so. [/size]

[BabyGirl]

[color=deeppink]If she wants to have a child so badly, then she needs to first consider how her still being in school would effect the child. It would almost be [i]unfair[/i] to the child if she couldn't devote all of her time and energy (or at least a majority of it) to raising him or her.[/color]

[KittyLynn]

thank you guys i will tell her..i never really thought it was a good idea, i thought she should wait...well thanks !!!

[Ryan]

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Your welcome calumon_luver. I hope she does the right thing.[/size]

[Genkai]

um, c_l never said she was going to throw her life away. what if her fiance has a very stable job, is intelligent, and is commited, while she is about to finish school, and has thouroughly thought this through? well, i guess it's too late to give my opinion, but yeah, we dont really know the circumstances welll enough. WOULD she be throwing the circumstances away?

[Semjaza]

It still is giving up on a lot of things to make sure she is happy and secure. I mean, sure, having a baby is obviously what she wants to do. But I think it is in her, and her baby's, best interest to continue with and finish school. Make sure her own life is where it should be before she adds someone else to it.

I think advice given here would be good for anyone, no matter what their situation is otherwise. You never know what could happen in the future, she might as well make sure she is in the best situation she could be.