Stitch Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 :'( i'm really upset because i have liked a guy for about two years now and he knows i like him and he is very sweet to me but there is one thing standing between me and him and its this girl in my class she is kinda a smartie-pants-know-it-all-that-is-never-wrong type of person and she likes the same guy i do and i feel sorry for her because no one will go out with her but the guy i like would probably go out with her........ this makes me sad because i don't know if i should burst her bubble and ask him out for my self when she has been nagging me about him NOT KNOWING I LIKED HIM!!! and she was like i'm going to ask him out for myself and this worries me because i know he will say yes. also numerous guys have used me to get to my friends i'm like a decoy i feel that no one likes me and everyone just uses me to get to other ppl its not fair and i get hit on cuz i look like the attached pic. GAH has this happened to anyone or does anyone have advice and should i ask the guy i like out first .... oh man i'm soooo confused i wanna cry its sooo annoying plz plz help me!!!! ~GG~ P.S. i don't really look EXACTLY like this my mom is a photograher and my dad used an sging program to make me look older and my nose id longer also i had to suck in my cheeks to make them look flat but really they are all chubby! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 In general I'd probably say something else, but sometimes you just have to forget other people and do what would make you happy. So personally I say go for it, the other girl will get over him. This has some of the longest run-on sentences I ever saw. My head hurts lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genkai Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 dude, that was like a 3-sentence paragraph...O_O... anyway, i have had a similar problem. there's this girl i really liked and i only told ONE person(who i actrually told tonight) about it and.......oh wait a minute........ she's on these boards now....... eep, better shut up.. okay, well, who cares, one of my friends likes her too and has liked her forever. i had wanted to ask her out SEVERAL times, and she came up to me to ask me out but then shy backed down. the problem was, i would feel REALLY bad dating my friends 1 and only crush ever.... so im kinda glad she didn't ask me out becausse i would rather give up happiness with her than lose my friend's trust... but, this annoying girl isn't your friend..... and it's completely her fault no one will go out with her, so ask him out NOW, get it over with, and youll be okay. you dont have anything to lose by asking him out, but you DO have something to lose by not asking him out. so, go for it. and try to punctuate next time, lol. just kidding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 [color=red] What are you in, high school? To tell you the truth, I'd let the girl ask him first, because it seems to me what is [i]morally[/i] correct. Really, you aren't going to find the person that you are going to spend your entire life with in high school, so I wouldn't fret over some little crush one has in just high school. Because really I myself don't think I will begin dating seriously until I'm in college maybe, then people will be more mature. Although some people are pretty mature, some aren't.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charles Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 [B][Quote]" Happiness is like a butterfly; chase it and it flies away, but wait patiently and it will land softly on your shoulder."[/B][/Quote] If you ask this guy out, you won't be happy. Judging by your incessant inner moral debate, I'm guessing that you would feel very guilty and sad in this relationship, ultimately ending in an early break-up. If you see this girl every day and she is a friend of yours, I doubt that the guilt will fade quickly. It might actually grow. You're young and you'll find other guys. There's no need to trouble yourself with this. I bet that you'll actually feel better if he does indeed say yes to her. I mean, it's not like you should be in a rush to settle down already. This boy shouldn't be a potential husband. Have fun, date around. Don't believe that the buck stops here with this one person. You have plenty of time to find that "special someone" lol. Because she has confided in you, you would probably appear as a back stabber if you go behind her and approach the boy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kent Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 speaking from the view point of a guy who would love to meet that pretty girl in the picture; I say you tell the girl about your long existent crush on homeboy, then go to him. any guy would want you to come out and aproach this head on. I know he would love it if you can out with your feelings. every one above is right about love in high-school, I woulnt kid you, its bogus. but that is no reason to forget it all together. go for it. if the girl is a true friend and you express yourself well, she should understand. just remember to ask yourself, is this guy worth it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hikaru Ichijyo Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 :confused: Is it me or has stupid cupid being striking in the winter lately? My advice to everyone is tell your crushes the truth about how you feel. If they don't respond or you get rejected move on swiftly and quickly. I think just about everyone these days are experiencing these type of love problems yours truly included. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorykoAngelcry Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by ~Gohans Gurl~ [/i] [B]:'( i'm really upset because i have liked a guy for about two years now and he knows i like him and he is very sweet to me but there is one thing standing between me and him and its this girl in my class she is kinda a smartie-pants-know-it-all-that-is-never-wrong type of person and she likes the same guy i do and i feel sorry for her because no one will go out with her but the guy i like would probably go out with her........ this makes me sad because i don't know if i should burst her bubble and ask him out for my self when she has been nagging me about him NOT KNOWING I LIKED HIM!!! and she was like i'm going to ask him out for myself and this worries me because i know he will say yes. also numerous guys have used me to get to my friends i'm like a decoy i feel that no one likes me and everyone just uses me to get to other ppl its not fair and i get hit on cuz i look like the attached pic. GAH has this happened to anyone or does anyone have advice and should i ask the guy i like out first .... oh man i'm soooo confused i wanna cry its sooo annoying plz plz help me!!!! ~GG~ P.S. i don't really look EXACTLY like this my mom is a photograher and my dad used an sging program to make me look older and my nose id longer also i had to suck in my cheeks to make them look flat but really they are all chubby! [/B][/QUOTE] [COLOR=darkred][SIZE=1]Wow. . if there is ever anyone out there that sounds like a mirror image of my life. . . lol. To be honest, something similar to that happened to me. It started with my first job. I made a really good friend working there, and we both met this really great girl. Well, she was really really sweet, and the three of us became close friends. We would hang out a lot, and she never really gave signs as to liking either one of us. I slowly started to 'fall' for her, and on my day off, my friend comes in and asks her out. Y_Y well, long story short, he got the girl, and I became the 'fifth wheel' of our trio (that makes sense. . . leave me alone). I don't know if this helps you out or not, but in stead of just being there wishing you could have done something, I would probably move ahead and ask him out. You may be surprised, and he would accept. Who knows, if you wait even one more day, she just might beat you to it and then end up with the guy *shrug* sorry if my advice isn't too helpful =) Just thought I would toss a bit of a personal opinion out there. Many people have already stated that if you really feel that this guy is worth it in your mind, then you would only be hurting yourself not to go for it. You have to make the ultimate decision on that matter, since it really appears this guy is thick headed and isn't going to make a move any time soon. On one more side note - love the picture ^_^ regardless of how you think you really look, most good people see right through any 'faults' you think you may have to your inner beauty. [/SIZE][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 [FONT=arial]:bluesweatoh man, I'm in just about the exact situation you're in right now. if this girl is your friend or she's been talking to you night and day about him, clue her in about you liking him so much, she might be understanding about it and lay off him (although in all truth this one's highly unlikely), and it won't make you come off looking like a back-stabber if you decide to ask him out. but if you've only talked to this girl maybe once or twice, I wouldn't worry (as much) about telling her. if you like this guy so much, go ahead and tell him. but like I said earlier, if the girl who likes him is your friend, talk to her about it [i]before[/i] you do anything, if you want to keep her as your friend.[/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by ~Gohans Gurl~ [/i] [B]:'( i'm really upset because i have liked a guy for about two years now and he knows i like him and he is very sweet to me but there is one thing standing between me and him and its this girl in my class she is kinda a smartie-pants-know-it-all-that-is-never-wrong type of person and she likes the same guy i do and i feel sorry for her because no one will go out with her but the guy i like would probably go out with her........ this makes me sad because i don't know if i should burst her bubble and ask him out for my self when she has been nagging me about him NOT KNOWING I LIKED HIM!!! and she was like i'm going to ask him out for myself and this worries me because i know he will say yes. also numerous guys have used me to get to my friends i'm like a decoy i feel that no one likes me and everyone just uses me to get to other ppl its not fair and i get hit on cuz i look like the attached pic. GAH has this happened to anyone or does anyone have advice and should i ask the guy i like out first .... oh man i'm soooo confused i wanna cry its sooo annoying plz plz help me!!!! ~GG~ P.S. i don't really look EXACTLY like this my mom is a photograher and my dad used an sging program to make me look older and my nose id longer also i had to suck in my cheeks to make them look flat but really they are all chubby! [/B][/QUOTE] Thats a tough situation. I'm really sorry you have to be in it. Personally I just think you should ask him out. This is kinda contradicting Crazy White Boy's post, but I think you should go and get him! If you wait, you won't get him. Lifes only worth living if you have a love by your side, so I say go get him. This is only my opinion though! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stitch Posted October 12, 2002 Author Share Posted October 12, 2002 .....well i think i will go for him but i have to wait cuz he is camping right now..... *sigh* I told the girl about my feelings.... she was preety pi$$ed of at me... she said i wouldn't get him .... but i think i will since the guy has been calling me on his cell phone non stop.We talk about stuff and complian about how his little brother keeps getting into trouble.... its really sweet last night he SANG to me it was cute! He asked me to go to the formal with him i said yes yeah but i gotta go now im going to the fair with my brothers and sisters . Wish me luck because he gets back tonite and i'm going to tell him how i feel straight out! ~GG~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kent Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 damn, now thats what Im talking about. every girl on the board could learn a thing or two from gohans gurl. way to go, Im sure things will work out, and I hope your girl friend can deal with it. how sweet it is to hear good news. ahhhh! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarkM Posted October 12, 2002 Share Posted October 12, 2002 Do what u fell is right....there short and sweet! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted October 13, 2002 Share Posted October 13, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by ~Gohans Gurl~ [/i] [B].....well i think i will go for him but i have to wait cuz he is camping right now..... *sigh* I told the girl about my feelings.... she was preety pi$$ed of at me... she said i wouldn't get him .... but i think i will since the guy has been calling me on his cell phone non stop.We talk about stuff and complian about how his little brother keeps getting into trouble.... its really sweet last night he SANG to me it was cute! He asked me to go to the formal with him i said yes yeah but i gotta go now im going to the fair with my brothers and sisters . Wish me luck because he gets back tonite and i'm going to tell him how i feel straight out! ~GG~ [/B][/QUOTE] [FONT=arial]well, don't worry about that girl. if she couldn't handle the news in a more mature manner than that, than she's not worth the bother. oh, and good luck to you! :toothy: [/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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