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Im so sad that im not going to stay little forever and that everything always has to be soo kool. like i like Digimon and Sailor moon and stuff, but in my grade, thats not kool.......i really don't care but im sad that i can't express myself the way i used to. I want to be little,I want to always have Halloween and dress up i always want to have my mom their when im alone or sick or whatever, i always want my friends, the same friends that i have had for years...I don't want things to change..

Am i strange? is there anything wrong with me??Do you feel this way??
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Nothing is wrong with you.

I didn't like change when ever I had to deal with it.

But my advice would be just to try and go with it.

Even though things can really suck when they start to change, it can suck even more when you try to fight them.

good luck and remember that even though your age gets older, you can always be young at heart.

Oh yea, one more thing, I was totally a nerd to everybody I hung out with because of the fact that I was into anime, no matter what kind. (although I was a big dbz freak)
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Its personality, alot of people do dislike the fact that they have to grow up, its natural to them, they were raised in a very nurturing environment and feel that there is no way it can get better than it is currently. Now Other people were brought up to stand on their own two feet, growing up always being told that someday they can't be around their parents anymore, so they are more well adjusted to be able to take this challenge on. Then theres people like me. I don't want to live at home anymore, but I don't want to have that much responsibility on my head. So im stuck inbetween.

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[size=1][color=firebrick]Be like me and don't accept that your growing up. :p I understand your fear of growing up. But who really gives a flying fudge what is cool in your grade. As wise people in Dr.Pepper comercials say. "Be you, Do what you do" but they usually follow that by yelling "DR.PEPPER".[/size][/color]
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You are no way un-normal. I think everyone to a certain level feels the same way. But I mean I know what you mean I feel the same reason. I'm scared that I won't make it in life, having to support a family. I don't think I'm responsible enough to take care of myself right now, let alone other people. *shrugs* The future is scary all you have to do is grit your teeth and go through...
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[color=red] Change is an inevitable thing. It grasps you in its tight tendrils and slothers upon you a new feeling of an entire picture of what reality is. You will need to except this change, or you won't make the right choices that society says you should. I've felt this way before, and it is an overwhelming feeling. You feel like a small part of something that's so much bigger than you are. You finally see what the real world has chosen to become, and are no longer as ignorant to the ways of our society as you used to be. I've felt it before.

All you have to do is accept it. It sounds simple, but is much more of a complexity then simplicity. But if I can do it, anyone can.

So just try to accept them as these new feelings come, and everything will make sense.

As for your like of Sailormoon and so on--if someone hates you for what you like, that is their loss, [i] not yours[/i]. So just ignore people like that, since they are biased.[/color]
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Change, although scary, can be a good thing.

When I was 13, my step-mom told me she was pregnant (actually, my dad was supposed to tell me, but it somehow slipped from my step-mom's and step-brothers' mouths first). My baby sister was born when I was 14. For the first time in 14 years, I was no longer the youngest child. I was scared, because I now had to help take care of this young life. I had no idea what to do. I had to change diapers and hold her until she went to sleep at night.

On the plus side, I have a baby sister! It's fun to watch her grow up and she brings out the kid in me. Plus I feel needed :D

In change, there is growth. Growing older makes you into a better person. It's like one of my teachers said the week before graduation...

"Be child-like. Don't be childish."
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As long as you're mature when you have to be, I don't see the problem.

I shouldn't like cartoons or videogames anymore according to some people. Even so, I watch cartoons more than anything else. I love Disney movies. I like stupid cute things. I love kittens. My favorite colors are hot pink and violet. All crap that normally isn't equated with someone my age. Change is fine, as long as it's not something you don't want to do or it's radically changing your lifestyle.

Maturity and inevitable change are one thing, but you obviously still like these things. The only reason you wouldn't like them anymore would be thanks to peer pressure. In this case that isn't something you should be concerned with, unless you think being "cool" is the end all, be all of existance. And even then, everyone has different measures of what is cool and what's not. Some of my friends think it's cool to go get wasted at a party, screw girls they don't know or get baked in someone's car. I don't... everyone's different.

I think Peewee Herman is cool for god's sakes. It's all relative lol.
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[SIZE=1]Teh...who wants to grow up?

[an unnervingly large number of people, that's for sure.]

When I was little, I literally spent hours at a stretch, several days a week playing 'never-never-land.' Sometimes my sibs or a friend would join, but mostly it was just me, running around the house and yard, and acting out every part.

The only school activity I'm involved in is Drama.

But, no. I'm really not fond of the whole 'growing up' concept. I'm terrified of driving. Everyone else I know is thrilled to death to have their driver's license, my parents made me take the class this summer. I hated it with a passion. Driving is the most stressful thing I have ever had to do. My behind-the-wheel instructor had me in tears after every lesson.

No, driving is not a good thing...[/SIZE]
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Well, I'm [I]still[/I] skeptical about growing old. But, I realize that it's something to be thankful for, a privelage. Sure, living for free and relying on parents is a sweet deal for a spell, but you'll go through a period of rebellion soon and yearn for independence.

I know that right now you're afraid of meeting new people. It can be scary, I know. Yet, the people we meet along the way, on the road of life, are what truly make it interesting.

As you grow older, you'll have the opportunity to escape your parameters and open yourself up to so many new things.

Plus, you can always express yourself. The people you care for won't go away when you grow up, immediately. In fact, the number will probably grow. Down the line you'll probably have your own family and new interests. At that time, I doubt that you'll trade any of it for anything.

So, cheer up. Your best days are ahead of you, I'm sure (That would be a good fortune cookie line). ;)

Oh, and don't worry about being strange because of your feelings. Haven't you ever heard the Toys R' Us song? ^_^
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I'll never grow up. I am going to be 21 in 11 days and I LOVE anime, aspecially digimon. And it's not even that intense! Here's my take on it. You are only as old as you wanna be. No matter what time does to your body, stick to what you like, with what makes you you[i]you[/i]. It's the only way you are going to make it through.
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I am in the 10th grade. My parents allways tell me that my behavior is far to immature for my age. Some things that I do are considered childinsh to my friends. After I got into 7th grade, I stopped caring. I couldn't afford all the 'awesome clothes' people wore. I couldn't afford the $170 silver chains people wore. I stopped caring what people thought of me. The only people's opinions I do care about are the ones that, I consider, matter. My close friends, my very close female friends, once in a while my parents, and my boss. Those are the people opinions I only truely care about. If they don't like me for who I am, I dont care.
You may not have found your lot-in-life yet, but untill you do just be yourself.
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In the environment I lived in, having to live with my family, I was forced to grow up quickly. At age 8 I started taking care of my brother and both of my parents to keep them from doing something completely stupid when they'd argue. At 9 I became physically depressed and learned to wear masks. At 10 I had to save my mother from a near-death experience she had during a bad spasm of hyper-ventilating during a drunken fight with my [i]father[/i]... And things just got worse as I got older.

But yeah, there's nothing wrong with it. I can't even count how many times I look back, if but for a moment, and realize how much I wish my aura of childhood innocence wasn't stolen from me so early...

I'm still a kid at heart, but this just feels...different...
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[color=indigo]Sometimes you suddenly look back and you realise how much you've changed. How much you've grown and how much more you know. It's normal I guess.

After I moved with my Mum here to NZ from China (which is a long way) and left my Dad I was forced to grow up fast. Forced to do house work and deal with kids who laugh at me because my English wasn't so good then. And I learnt from that. Change is normal, it's part of life. If you don't change then you'll be left behind. Even though in some ways it's better that way. But in this sort of world you can either fit in somewhere or go to hell. There's so second chances. It's the world humans have built for themselves.

(Sorry if I'm all philosophical. It's 10:30pm and I'm sleepy)[/color]
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I always felt that moving on was always a catch-22... when I was young, I wanted to be older... now that I'm older (though not very old- only 19), I wish I was younger.. back when I actually wondered how someone went about buying a house, and getting a job.

Whoa.. that was off-topic, kind of..

I never really feared change too much.. I'm generally quite open minded.. Maybe it's because I'm still young..

I'l actually reminded of a passage in Douglas Adams' last book, "The Salmon of Doubt".. it goes something (but not exactly) like this:

Anything that is invented before you are 12 is just part of the natural way the world works

Anything that is invented between when you are 12 and 18 is new and exciting and you want one

Anything that is invented between when you are 18 and 30 is new and exciting, and is a possible carreer move

Anything that is invented between when you are 30 and 50 (I really don't remember this one at all- less so than the others.. I may have accidentally added one of the first two groups as well)

Anything that is invented after when you are 60 is against the natural order of things

so yeah... the idea there is that the older you get the more you fear any change of what you already know..
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Ok, i guess im not strange but ok im getting my room redone. and i have had it pink for my whole life. But now it is going to change into a tan color and leopard and safari bed print. Im really sad but do you think ill eventually like my new room???Or will i ever get over it?
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Don't worry, I'm kind of like that too. Now if I get sick my parents just say live with it or do you want medicine. They won't even take me home early from school.

I am also a big anime fan but all my friends hate it. Except for one friend but all my other friends hate him. lol. Don't worry you have nothing to fear. A lot of people have the same feelings.
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My room is practically all gone.My room used to be the top half pink paint and the bottom half a trim and wallpaper. but not the trim and wallpaper is gone...and all the furniture is all apart. When I went to bed last night,I looked aroundd my room and just sat in a corner..almost crying.

But I'm slowly getting over it...but im always going to be a little sad about it...
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I have the best friends in the world. There are times when I hate them for that. There are time when I hate myself for liking them. Cause they're gonna leave. They always do. There are times when I don't leave my house for days on end because if I do, things might change. My house will always be the same, I will never let it change.

When you leave school and go off to college, you say you'll keep in touch, but - yeah, right. There's going to be new friends a college, everybodys gonna go their seperate ways, you come back in en years, nobody knows who you are.

It gets worse as you go on. You get married and have children. You [b]settle down[/b], goodbye life. You become your parents. I don't know about you, but my parents only friends are their families.

And then you die. And that's it. Wormfood. Afterlife? Yeah, sure, whatever.

I try not to think about it, because it puts me on a huge downer, but as you can see, it's inevitable. I have no advise. All I can say is live with it. Some days you won't even think of it at all.
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C_l, the scariest thing in life to me now is growing up. I'm more afraid of that than death( a little). Death is nothing to fear, because it's going to come for you sooner or later. The samething goes for growing, it's never going to stop, because everythig is growing in its own way. When the time comes for you to grow out of a certain thing, it will. Nobody else is going to be able to change anything you like except you. I loved Pok'emon, but after two years of infatuation, I grew out of being obsessed with it and turned to digimon( which I happened to like at the same time as Pok'emon). People are always going to try to change you in something, that's just apart of life. Don't let it get you down, because you are you. Who gives about anything else another somebody says. Sure, sometimes it's good to listen to others, but it's up to you to decide what you like...Don't be depressed, just because things are changing doesn't mean that it's going to be bad for you in the future. For all you know it could be happening for the best for your future. I believe there's a reason for everything that happens, especially if it's something you like, but I'm just 13 so what do I know...
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[color=deeppink]I remember being younger and wanting to grow up, and for the most part getting older [b]is[/b] a good thing. I wouldn't want to go back to my days of being 13 or 14 again, because being that young isn't fun. I know how most of you feel, like you think you're old enough to do everything that 18 year olds do, but in reality you're not.

Basically, cherish your high school years. I wouldn't tell you to not want to grow up when you're 12-15, because I know how you feel. But once you hit those fun high school years, slow down and enjoy what you're doing.[/color]
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[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by calumon_luver [/i]
[B]Im so sad that im not going to stay little forever and that everything always has to be soo kool. like i like Digimon and Sailor moon and stuff, but in my grade, thats not kool.......i really don't care but im sad that i can't express myself the way i used to. I want to be little,I want to always have Halloween and dress up i always want to have my mom their when im alone or sick or whatever, i always want my friends, the same friends that i have had for years...I don't want things to change..

Am i strange? is there anything wrong with me??Do you feel this way?? [/B][/QUOTE]
No theres absolutly nothing wrong with not wanting to grow up. I sometimes hate the fact that I am aswell. I also used to care alot about what people thought about me, but at the end of 8th grade I kind of let loose a little. Then in 9th grade I completly let loose(so to speak). I wore what [I]I[/I] wanted too, not what other people wore. Hehe, I NEVER wear jeans anymore. My pants are comfortable andI like them like that. I got tired of the whole 'tight leg jeans' look. I also wear alot of DragonBall Z shirts(9 of them). I'm in 10th grade now and yeah I still act like a kid(technically I am;)). Although my teachers all see my mature side because I'm just like that. I've always been real quite. At home I'm loud(at times), but thats beside the point. Anyway be who you are, who you want to be! I'll still love Anime when I'm 25, hoping to be an Animation Artist(making my own Anime/Mangas)!:D
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