1337 Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 Hmmm, my old life crisis. Situation: You are dating somebody (I'm not going to say a boy or a girl, since there's both on here) and you've been with them for a long time, a little less than a year. There's also this other person that you really like, you think you're in love with him/her. When your boyfriend/girlfriend finds out that you like this other person, they get very mad. They yell at you for it, and insist that you stop liking this other person, but you cannot. What do you do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 [color=red] Obviously if you don't love the person you are currently dating, and find you love someone more, you should be with the one you think you love. Although it would be wrong morally to just break up with someone so quickly to go out with someone else, I would still break up with the current person and go with the other. It will hurt the person you are currently dating, I'm certain of that, so just try to not be rude when you tell them you're dumping them.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 Bah, I'd leave my current bf/gf and just forget about the other person. Problem solved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1337 Posted October 25, 2002 Author Share Posted October 25, 2002 [quote][b]Obviously if you don't love the person you are currently dating, and find you love someone more, you should be with the one you think you love.[/b][/quote] What if you love both of them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kent Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 Well Im not trying to be mean, but I would have to say your throwing around the word love pretty loosely. If I was you I would lose the current bf/gf, then go out with the one you feel you like more. I also want to mention I feel it would be morally wrong to continue your relationship with your current when you care for another more. Or even worse go out with the current and see the other on the side, thats just about as low as it gets. Only one at a time, and the one you care for most. sorry if Im harsh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 [color=red] Uh, well, you've got me there. It is impossible for one to love two people the same. I mean, the two relationships have to be very different from the other. Like one could be purely sexual, the other romantic, ect.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 Maybe you should just leave them both, and sort your feelings out. At this rate you're just going to hurt both of them. Figure out what it is you want to do, I'm sure you can act on it in the future instead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1337 Posted October 25, 2002 Author Share Posted October 25, 2002 hmm, perhaps you're right SA. And Gokents, I don't feel as if I am using that word loosely. I know how I feel, and I know how it feels to be in love, and that is what I am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostProphet Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 I put date both, because my girlfriend told me to be more affectionate. So I got another girlfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fly-T Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Semjaza Azazel [/i] [B]At this rate you're just going to hurt both of them. . [/B][/QUOTE] Not necssarily. This person could be one of those types that just exposse themself to every person on the block, or could be the type that have no type of "you're cheating on me!!" emotions. I would have to just let both of them go. Or, date the one thats too hard to leave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 I am not going to assume such things, given he has said nothing like that so far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fly-T Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 But, what he has said won't always be the circumstance and detail of personality. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 Considering how much he seems to care about both of them, I'm not about to stick one in the category of "easy" girls (I assume this is what you mean by exposing lol). He also said the one he is with would get upset, so obviously she is the type to have these "you're cheating on me!" emotions. I just think it's in his best interest not to risk upsetting either of them, and just sort his thoughts out on this. I'm not going to say that he should go with one or the other... There aren't even enough facts here for anyone to really pick one over the other. It is definite that he has to sort out what he's thinking anyway, and I'm willing to bet that they'd still be around when he made a decision. Everyone can have their opinion on it... But that's mine hah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fly-T Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 I feel 100% on that. I would sleep on it, drink some kool-aid, and 3-way call both of them in the afternoon and discuss it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kent Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 I'm sorry if I insulted you. I meant no harm. I was just trying to make the point that some in the thread have touched on. That being, its almost impossible to feel the exact same way about any two people. I also sort of feel bad saying this, but the one time I was really in love, I thought of no one else. I really spent all my time thinking of one girl and it didnt happen immediatly, I knew her for over 4 years and never felt I was in love until way late in that time. I am sorry. You are the only one who knows how you feel and I have no right to say anything about how you feel. But on that note I never really said you didnt love someone, just that the word was being used "loosely" which I must say was foolish. I am sorry. Still, I would recommend what semjaza said; go work out your feelings. You very well may end up hurting both people and that is no good, especially if you love them. (cause you would never wanna hurt those you love) Also, if you play around and say things just to keep one around while your thinking of the other, you may end up losing both. (not that your doing that) But that would be even worse than dealing with the feelings you have now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Anakin Solo Posted October 25, 2002 Share Posted October 25, 2002 But...do you know if the other feels the same way that you do? Because if he/she doesn't, why throw away a good relationship(sp), just because you "love" someone when they don't feel the same way for you? I'm not saying she doesn't, but you should find out they way he/she feels before you go and do anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fly-T Posted October 26, 2002 Share Posted October 26, 2002 Good point. I would just talk with all the party's and address the situation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iggy Posted October 26, 2002 Share Posted October 26, 2002 you know what i would do?? Flip a coin best way to decide if u love them both Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted October 26, 2002 Share Posted October 26, 2002 [color=indigo]I hate to sound mean, but it doesn't seem to me like you LOVE either of these girls. If you did, it would be an easy choice to make, [i]neh[/i]? I think that you have a crush/slightcaseofinfatuation with one of the girls but you are comfortable in the relationship you are in right now. It really doesn't matter which one you end up dating, decisions like this usually occur with relationships that last for a brief moment...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fly-T Posted October 26, 2002 Share Posted October 26, 2002 Good old-fashion Quarters... Can't beat 'em But then again, it always depends on the girl overall to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Voodookanaka Posted October 26, 2002 Share Posted October 26, 2002 ...never let your heart rule your head... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted October 27, 2002 Share Posted October 27, 2002 [FONT=arial]I agree with Semjaza. until you know for sure what you're going to do about this whole thing, step out of the situation and think about it for a while before you decide on anything. when there are other people's feelings on the line, you don't want to do anything hasty, because shortly afterwards you could realize you'd made a big mistake, and you might not be able to fix it. I'm going to assume/hope that comment about flipping quarters somewhere around here was said sarcastically... [/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan L Posted October 28, 2002 Share Posted October 28, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by iggy [/i] [B]you know what i would do?? Flip a coin best way to decide if u love them both [/B][/QUOTE] If you're going to do that you may as well not bother.. I'd imagine that one of the worst things you can tell someone is 'Yeah.. I decided to dump that other person/stick with you cos you happened to be on the tails side of the coin..' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted October 28, 2002 Share Posted October 28, 2002 If someone did do that... I would hope they wouldn't [i]tell[/i] the person lol. I guess they'd have to be pretty dumb to actually trust flipping a coin for this decision anyway though lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Shift Posted October 28, 2002 Share Posted October 28, 2002 I'm damn straight when I say... I'll go cry in a corner and post about it at forums around the net... :'( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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