Cancer

[Stitch]

I'm really upset because my grandmother has bone cancer. she has been doing okay for about 3 weeks now and she went in for a check up to see how things were going, and we found out that she has lung cancer to because the dratted diesease has spread. they put her on oxygen yesterday...... my mom started crying yesterday night and that really scared me because my mom is so strong and i don't know how to be there for here and be there for myself.... it scares me because i feel so alone and i can't imagine life without my grandma.... i'm really freaked because i know she is going to because it hurts for her to even breath she can't even move .... has anyone delt with this before....?
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[Mitch]

[color=red] Well...the only death that's ever really happend to me is the death of my great grandpa, who I didn't know all that well plus I was young when it happend, and then the death of my dog, Bitsy. That's all that's happend to me. I really hope your Grandma gets better. My prayers and wishes and deepest hopes go out to her. Just don't give up hope, no matter how hard it seems.[/color]

[MarkM]

Well...i dont know what to say. But ummm.... spend as much time with your grandma as possible. she will be in my prayers

[Sui Generis]

I've delt with it three times. First my great great grandma died two years ago, I was really close to her. Then last year a friend of mine was murdered, even closer to her. And now my great grandma has Lukemia and Alzheimer's and isn't expected to live past Christmas. Some Christmas present. Sometimes I wonder why she deserves so much pain, she doesn't. I hate it...ugh...Anyways enough about my situation...

I'm really sorry to hear about your grandma. She will be in my thoughts, as will you and your family. All I can say is be strong, find someone to talk to. Don't bottle your emotions and don't be afraid to let others know you are afraid. (Get what I'm trying to say there?) It'll be difficult but just remember your mom will need you after this!

[Hinata]

[COLOR=darkblue] I can't say that I've gone through that myself..but I know how you're felling...
Last year my Aunt died from a heart attack...She was kind the life of our family....She'd tell you off and love you at the same time!! But the thing is that I couldn't say Good-Bye to her that's what really hurt, so at least you have time( but I pray that things do get better for her!) ALso my prayers be with your family esp. your mom. I've seen that kinda sorrow in my mom and I don't know if I wanna see her go through that again.

BTW. If you wanna talk anytime...PM me!!! It may take me a bit to get to it..but I'll still be there!!![/COLOR]

[Guest Matt]

[color=red][b]I know how you fell. My grandma on my dad's side had colon cancer and had it removed, then my grandpa on my [i]mom's[/i] side found out he too had colon cancer and got it removed. My grandma is fine, the the cancer is reaccuring in my grandfather and he went on kemo. I feel your pain. :([/b][/color]

[Kinetic]

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My grandmother once had cancer and had to go into Kemo, but the lived so I only slightly know how you are feeling.

I am very sorry for this turn of events and hope it all works out for the better. It must be devastating, to know that someone you love so much could leave, but I hope sincerely that she gets better and if she doesn't you're in my thoughts.
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[Guest Anakin Solo]

I know how you feel. Last year my dad died because of Lukemia. I hope your grandmother makes it out ok. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Ryan]

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I'm very sorry and my deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. I can't say that I know what you are going through because I don't recall having a relative die because of disease or having a disease at that. I will keep you in my prayers. Don't forget that you have friends here that you can talk to if you need to. Feel free to pm me or talk to me on AOL. I would be more than happy to help you. Stay strong!!:)[/size][/color]

[Dan L]

My mum had a very close friend with cancer who died this february.. he was in a lot of pain, mostly due to the chemotherapy.. but one day he just decided to come off the chemotherapy and to just let nature take it's course.. I didn't know him all too well, though.. so that's all I really know without gewtting too inaccurate..

[Rain]

[color=blue][size=1]My grandfather had cancer, I think it was before I was born, or when I was very young, it was in his jaw and he had to have part of it taken out. And my cousin has cancer...I can't really remember where, though. She went into remission(sp?) a while back but it's gotten worse.

Stitch, I really hope your grandmother gets better. My thoughts are with you and your family. Don't hesitate to PM me any time if you need to talk:). That goes for anyone here as well[/size][/color]

[Break]

[size=1][color=crimson].. Cancer is ****, I know how you feel. A close friend of mine didn't live through it though.. [/size][/color]

[Semjaza]

A lot of my friends were friends with a girl our age that recently died of cancer. I didn't know her personally, but seeing how upset everyone else was, it was still hard to deal with. My grandpa has some sort of tumor as well, although no one really talks about it. I myself am supposed to go get checked out for it too, as I'm showing some of the signs of a certain type. I just really do not like doctors, and keep stopping myself.

Anyway, I'm sorry about your grandmother's illness. I hope she can beat it into remission.

[[Sound_Nin]]

my aunt has lung cancer too. I know how you feel. Spend A LOT of time with her.

[Red]

[b]I hope your grandmother can pull through her cancer ordeal Stitch, and I wish you and your family all the best.

Make sure you stick by your grandmother, as I'm sure she'll want you by her side.[/b]

[Stitch]

:bawl: i can't stay close to her.... she lives to far away... i don't even have i good picture of her. my heart goes out to all of you guys.... i can't even talk on the phone with her because she can't breath properly its getting sickinly upsetting because i could go oupstairs and my dad would be at the table with my mom crying telling me shes gone and i won't here a word he says cause all my senses will go numb now my saddness is turning into anger i get violent i told all my frineds to leave me alone....it hurts to talk to anyone.....
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Ps sorry if none of this makes sense i'm just really upset.

[Neon Phoenix]

Thats so sad :(

My grandfather died about 5 years ago from cancer, before he died it was so severe he couldn't walk and had to be taken everywhere in a wheelchair, and had difficulty going to the toilet, having a shower, etc. My grandmother and uncle always had to take care of him, and I did too whenever I visited him with my parents

My prayer goes out to your grandmother

[JCBaggee]

[color=red]God, that sucks. Both my grandmothers and one of my grandfathers all died form some form of cancer. It's a cruel thing, and it really hurts. My grandfather and my grandmother died when I was really young, so I have no memory of who they are, and my grandmother died when I was too far away to have spent some time with her before hand...just a week before she died, then a few days to come back for the funeral.

I wish your grandmother the best of luck, and pray for her and the entire family.

--J.C.[/color]

[Stitch]

it to late.... shes gone shes not coming back... her funeral is tommorow.... i don't like the thought of her packed away inside a box...... it scares me ..well at least i made her laugh just befor she died... i told her she could eat as much cotten candy as she wanted when she got to where she was going...she told me not to cry for her because she is happy and she isn't afraid she smiled when she passed my mom is really upset i'm not that upset though because her last words told me she was going to be happy... i'm still upset that i cannot see her thank you for all your prayers they were appreciated.....
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[Lady Asphyxia]

[color=darkred]Death is always hard. I know it sounds stupid, but it's the truth. You ache, then you cry, and then you keep it inside, and finally you bust, and cry some more. But eventually, you accept it, and move on.

The word moving on is a bad one, and it always scared me. What if, by moving on, they mean forgetting? What if I forget them?

After a while, say a few years, you'll suddenly say "I don't think about them much any more. I can't remember what they look like." You freak out, and start to cry again, and go frantic and pull out all the pictures you have of them, anything that might remind you of them; aftershave, perfume, the old stamp collection they gave you when you were six. Anything to let you hang on to them.

Depending on what type of person you are, you'll let people know you're unhappy, or you'll stay there, keep the misery locked away from prying, sympathetic eyes, learn to put on a normal face, and eventually repress it away.

That's the way things work. However, it does get easier. Instead of grieving because they're gone, you might laugh once in a while because you remember something funny they said. Then "once in a while" will come more often, and you can laugh, and remember fondly all the good times you had.

Death [i]is[/i] hard, but it will always get easier. Its in the nature of human emotion to let it get easier.


I promise. [/color]

[Sere Tuscumbia]

For once, Rae actually has a post that's nice. You should feel proud of Rae.

I can relate to death. Really, I can. I never knew my grandfather, because he died of cancer before I was born.

My father had cancer, but that was when I was little, so I didn't really understand what death meant. Death really wasn't real to me.

In seventh grade, my mother had a cyst, but we weren't sure if it was that or cancer. I had a nervous breakdown one day in Choir, and missed 20 minutes of the next class because of that. But it was nothing serious in the end. And it was funny, because the whole "Mole Mania" thing had still been going on, and my mother, on lots and lots of painkillers, kept on wanting to know who the Mole was. It was really funny. Almost as funny as the "The clean dishes are in the refrigerator!" episode . . .

My heart goes out to you Stitch, really. I was so scared that my mother was going to die, that one day I'd go home and she wouldn't be there . . . so I understand. Really I do.

[Lady Asphyxia]

[color=darkred]I know, Sere. Have you read my posts in this forum. I'm surprized with myself. And by nice, do you mean cheerful, or well put?

Besides, I wanted to put something in here. Dealing with Death makes you feel completely alone, and in solitude. Even when people who have been through the same thing try to help you out, it feels different, because its fresh for you, and they don't seem to care any more. And even that scares you, because you think "What if I won't care any more?"


Again, I wanted to say something. Hope keeps you going. As does the feeling that you [i]aren't[/i] alone, even if you seem to be now.[/color]

[Rain]

[color=blue]I agree with Lady Asphyxia, it will get easier. I'm glad it makes you feel better that your grandmother said she was happy...I'm not too good with giving advice, so just remember that you will start to feel better after a while. And if you ever need to talk, PM me.[/color]

[Dragonz Fyre]

I had that kind of thing happen to me a few times. My mema (grama) died of lung cancer because she smoked a lot, she was really close to me. My great grama died of cancer the following year, I'm not sure what kind. I remember both because it was only a few years ago and I was old enough to remember. My best friend had 3 of his friends die of cancer and his little brother has lukemia.

My heart goes out to you and all your family, tell your grama you love her and never forget her, or any of the times you had together. Its the memories that make life all that more special.

[Stitch]

i went to her funeral .... i hadn't cryed my but when i saw he rso still and un moving the laughter gone from her face i burt out crying i had to be takin outside because i was making such a fuss my boyfriend just held me for a while then i had to go inside and say my part about her when i got up there i had a hard time saying things i was so choked up but i got halfway and i srated talking about her achevements and who she was to me .... all the ppl said i had a really touching things to say about her whjen all the rest were stuffy speechs about someone who didn't sound like her i'm going to cut this off i need to go lie down i have been feeling sick the last few days... my grandpa has lukemia but its so slow the doctors say he will die of natural causes before he die of the diesease...
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thanks lady A for you input you to rain .... it made me smile to think of all these ppl who don't know me still putting and efort in to make me feel better u lightened my heart thanks agian!