Avalon Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [color=deeppink]Well, this is kind of a dilemma I'm going through. My friend is looking for the perfect mate...and she's 19. She says she's not getting any older so she's been looking. So far, she's been dating a different man every week. She believes that the perfect mate has no flaws...at all. They have to look perfect, talk perfect, act perfect, and be all around perfect. I've tried to tell her that there is not a man out there that is perfect...but she won't listen. It's kinda making me angry because all all of these boys that she dumped are good men. It's kinda making me think about what a perfect mate should be...so, the question is...is there a perfect mate?[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 No one's perfect, and if that's what she wants, she'll be looking the rest of her life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan L Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 One important point to know is that we can't even really understand what perfect is, because we're not.. If she wants a perfect mate, then she's going to have to [i]be[/i] a perfect mate, too.. and that's just not in anyone's capacity.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [color=royalblue]Flaws are what make the perfect mate perfect. ;) You find that you actually love your partner's flaws...they are unique to that person. Usually, things you see as flaws in yourself are things that attract others to you, to an extent. So yeah...flaws are actually a part of perfection, if that makes sense. If the other person was TOTALLY perfect in every way...that'd get boring very quickly.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [quote]If the other person was TOTALLY perfect in every way...that'd get boring very quickly. [/quote] [b]So very true... Someone without flaws wouldn't be the perfect partner for me, they wouldn't have that unique thing about them that would appeal to me. I also agree with Transtic, she'll be looking for a long time if she wants to find someone perfect in her eyes, and who is going to stay perfect. I'm only 16 so my opinion may not matter, lol.[/b] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 you will never find a perfect mate if thats what your focusing on. the one way to FIND a perfect (yes possible for i have found mine) mate is to have it happen by pure luck/fate/accident... just cant plan a mate... not a perfect one anyway Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JCBaggee Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [color=red]Well, Panny, my perfect mate was you, until you married this NorykoAngelcry guy...*tear...^_- Anyhoo, it is possible to find a perfect mate, but a flaw must be what ultimatly makes one perfect, right? I can't say I've had much experience with love and whatnot, but I do know that I'd hate to be with someone who was perfect... --J.C.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 so true... if my angel wasnt so damned stuborn she would not be the perfect image of a woman she is to me today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [color=red] Flaws are what create chemistry, at least, that's what I've seen. I mean, if someone was perfect in every single possible way, it would be nice at first, but that person would end up being just a bore once you get into knowing them. Flaws are what attract the right people to you, I mean, as they say, [i]opposites attract[/i]. Anyways, no one is ever perfect. If everyone or even some were perfect then we'd all be living under a goverment run by those group of people, and we'd have everything so bored down that we'd just go crazy with boredom. Perfection is a goal which will never be achieved. I'm with exactly what James said. Flaws are what make a kind of translucent perfection. Also, those flaws are what create conflict within a relationship. And from what I believe [i]conflict creates life[/i]. thus, life creates conflict.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JCBaggee Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [color=red]I just couldn't imagine it...they would [i]always[/i] be right...*shudder --J.C.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan L Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mitch [/i] [B][color=red] Flaws are what create chemistry, at least, that's what I've seen. I mean, if someone was perfect in every single possible way, it would be nice at first, but that person would end up being just a bore once you get into knowing them. [/color][/B][/QUOTE] Actually, if you think about it, "boring" is anything but perfect.. so perfect shouldn't exactly be boring either.. "perfect" doesn't just mean 'not taking any chances' or 'doing nothing wrong', it just means doing everything right.. the thing is, we all have a pre-set view of what 'perfect' is.. whereas, in truth, none of us can really begin to understand what 'perfect' would actually be. The reason for that being that we simply [i]can't be[/i] perfect. I try not to think 'this is what perfect is', because I, an imperfect being, can't begin to comprehend it.. So I think my point is: there is no perfect person, because people aren't perfect.. anyone who [i]seems[/i] to be perfect, but boring, isn't perfect at all, because if they were, the whole 'boring' factor wouldn't be there. I agree with practically everything else that has been said- it's often flaws (so long as they're not dangerous ones) that actually attract people together, rather than how perfect a person is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 perfect is different for everyone..perfect is not the exact same to everyone.. so here is my rendition of perfection... Love renders perfection in my eyes and i have love..and love masks any thing that may make my angel 'not perfect' ..in my eyes anyway she is perfect and she has no flaws..because wat normaly would be considered a flaw by anyone else is considered an augmentation of my love for her..bleh yeh.. so there is perfection. cept only cuz the love masks anything that aint so perfect heheheh... geah! :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorykoAngelcry Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [COLOR=darkred][SIZE=1]Just look in your sig Panny Chan ^_^ . . *cough* Seriously though, I think I have stopped looking for the perfect mate, and am just looking for the mate part. . *sigh* Well. . I will let someone know if I ever find that special someone. . or just that someone =) lol [/SIZE][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 awe, aint you two so cute.... its a real marriage or just a pretend one for now? ... :) ..still cute... i finally tied the knot in heaven law with my angel...on the eve of Halloween but we were pretend married for like 6 months hehe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sephiroth Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Panny Chan ;) [/i] [B][color=deeppink] I've tried to tell her that there is not a man out there that is perfect...but she won't listen.[/color] [/B][/QUOTE] Same can be said about women.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kent Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 My question is, who really wants a perfect mate. Even though we all know that its not possible, say you could have the perfect mate. Would you really want to live your life with someone that never messed up, never looked funny, never did anything to bring them down to your own, "normal" level? I would want a girl who was perfect like that, I want a girl with flaws like what James was saying. A girl I fall in love with, she would be perfection, no matter who she was. If I loved her, that would be all that was needed for me to see "perfection". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 [size=1]I've said it before, and I suppose I'll be saying it again in the future. You [b]like[/b] someone despite their faults. You [b]love[/b] someone because of them. [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manic Webb Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 It's already been said, but I have my own meaning behind it... There is no perfect mate. If you ever met the perfect, they'd be missing one thing... a flaw. As said by several people, a flawless person would be just plain annoying. What kind of a person is never wrong?! What's really confusing is that a perfect person can never annoy you, so that means that a perfect person can't be perfect. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 ...but.....a perfect mate is MADE because of her/his faults.... some people cannot grasp that whole concept... what IS perfect? ..there is no such thing as perfect in the the realm of humans... gosh..i have a perfect mate..why? cuz she has lots of faults i find rather lovable.. bleh... gosh.. heh.. i just bleh! *sits in corner and has some odd sorta spasm* lol..ok i feel better :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JCBaggee Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 [color=red]Wow, there's a really deep quote in there... "The only perfect person is a flawed one." --Mystic's Knight ^_^ --J.C.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charles Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 When someone looks for the perfect mate, all they will see is imperfection.... You should encourage her to look for someone who she feels happy to simply hang out with. Good company makes a good partner. Honestly, if she's just looking for flaws, that's all she will find. Ultimately, she'll deny herself of everyone's positive traits. That would be unfair to herself and any potential boyfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manic Webb Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 I think the real problem here is the quest for the ideal mate, not the perfect mate. Perfect is flawless. Ideal means they have all the right faults. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Endymion [/i] [B]Perfect is flawless. Ideal means they have all the right faults. [/B][/QUOTE] [SIZE=1]That was curiously well said.[/SIZE] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mnemolth Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 Love the [i]person[/i], not the [i]idea[/i]. It never ceases to amaze me how many people, from 15 to 50, fail to understand such a basic concept. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilac oranges Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 the perfect mate is diffrent for everyone, its who ever makes you happy and you can make them happy :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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